Comments | my_daroga: Don't just stare like you never cared

my_daroga

Don't just stare like you never cared

Sep 25, 2007 10:04

As I wrote in lawgrrl_23's journal, "Selfless, Cold and Composed" is one of my favorite songs of all time. I think it hurts me because I feel like I'm the person he's singing to. I could be that girl.

( lyrics, for those who don't know it )

life, music

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a2zmom September 25 2007, 23:54:37 UTC

Actually, I love every song on that album. (I mean, come on a song about a pissed off dwarf? pure genius.)

I don't know that I identify with any particular song per see, but there are some that reduce me to tears instantly because of very personal connections.

my_daroga September 26 2007, 04:29:40 UTC

Oh, me too. I love this album. And I love how music, in general, can just trigger things in people.

megoobie September 26 2007, 01:33:18 UTC

I understand... my ex thought of me in the same way and made me think that of myself. It's a horrible, horrible feeling. I'm sorry.

May I ask who sings that song?

my_daroga September 26 2007, 04:30:23 UTC

Oh, ouch. I'm sorry. No one's ever made me feel that way; I did it to myself. And I got over it, too. Fie on your ex!

It's Ben Folds Five. It's a great album: Whatever and Ever Amen, it's called.

megoobie September 26 2007, 09:28:29 UTC

Thanks! I will check it out.

I'm a babe in a glass case seraphcelene September 27 2007, 00:41:04 UTC

It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
When it doesn't mean anything
You can take anything
So selfless, cold and composed

Okay. Those lyrics are so kinda me. I can be really, really ... detached. Cold is a description that I've heard often. But on the flip side, when I'm engaged by something or someone then I am totally 100% It's hard for me to find that middle ground.

I've just recently friended you and so far, I find you to be all aces. :)

Re: I'm a babe in a glass case my_daroga September 27 2007, 01:39:03 UTC

Thanks so much for commenting! I haven't gotten round to friending you back; but it's on the way.

So do you find the "coldness" (what an awful word) affects your life in adverse ways? Or have you learned it's part of your personality, and that you're engaged enough when it matters?

Part of me feeling better about this whole "automaton" thing was realizing that I just wanted different things than other people; I stopped compromising in order to have friends. That sounds bad, but what it really means is I realized I didn't need many people in my life, just ones who wanted the same things as me. So I stopped, say, "going out" or, I don't know, hanging with people who *only* wanted to see bad movies.

I don't know if I'm describing this well.

Re: I'm a babe in a glass case seraphcelene September 28 2007, 01:14:06 UTC

Hmmm ... the coldness thing has always been something people associated with me or stuck up and intimidating and that never bothered me because I never really paid enough attention to it. In reality, it was me being shy me, something that I've grown out of alot as I've gotten older, but when I don't know someone there is a reticence that people misread as aloofness and detachment. At the same time, to be fair, I'm not always interested in people or things that other people are interested in and I've never been good at pretending otherwise (read faking enthusiasm). I've learned to better make the chit chat but I'm not the best in new social situations because I usually don't care enough about people I don't know to make the effort, except sometimes I really click with someone right off the bat ( ... )