Confused

[mustang1701]

Ok I have this friend who just happens to be a girl. We were together for a few month then we both decided that we need to give it a little time so we kinda broke up but remained friends. We hang out on Saturdays usually when we rpg together at a friends house. Well this week nobody was really into gaming so we watched a couple of movies. As it got

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heh.

[wraithtdk]

You may be in the same boat I'm in. It's likely that you're just in serious need of a "friend with benefits". If you don't have feelings for her, that night may have just been about satisfying physical needs (a phenomena, which, despite what most thing, is NOT reserved solely for sex)

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[mustang1701]

That part of why I'm confused, I do still have feelings for her. We never truely got to explore those feelings. I quess I can wait and see but she is one of those women he kinda expects the man to make the first move, and i don't know if I should or not

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[wraithtdk]

You typically are. THat's part of being a man. Make the move. If you do have some feelings for her, I say make the move see where it goes.

Better yet, I say hurl. If you spew and she runs away, it was never meant to be. If you blow chunks and she comes back? She's your forever.

[genericcow]

Check it. My friend Gibran Kahlil Gibran gives the only advice on love that I find makes any kind of sense:

'...And think not you can
Direct the course of love,
For love, If it finds you worthy,
Directs your course.'

[genericcow]

Hey now, Gibran never says anything about action vs. inaction.

What Gibran's trying to tell you is that it's foolhardy to think that you have control. There's way too many things going on that you know nothing about. But the point is that, if it's really love, and not just a momentary infatuation, it'll happen whether you wait or jump in. You don't have a say in the matter.

Another way of saying this might be, "True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does."

[mustang1701]

Thanks for the advice. I'm surprised, I didn't think I would get this much. Anyways I guess my next step is to bring it up with her. The worst thing that could happen i guess is that she says no and we move on in life. It's not like a rejection will kill me, I should know I've had my share of them but not quite as many a Wraith I think. He is still the master and I but a student

[genericcow]

One more piece of advice: listen to something better than Dio.

^_^