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[musica_vis]

as someone wise once said " Women are very much like a computer" i am sorry if you don't get that, but if you do i hope you agree; it seems that most everyone (males) know those particlar programs and software settings that make women swoon; i think i must be like spyware, i ifest you and then screw you up intill you crash; and erase me; wow, these

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[fionabhair]

I think you'll end up talking yourself into a corner pretty much any time you try to equate human beings with machines. I just doesn't work =P Max, you're a wonderful person, and you're going to find another wonderful person to spend your life with someday, but I really wish you'd stop worrying about it so much. We've been through this before...you'll never be able to have a healthy relationship as long as you keep looking for someone who'll "make you happy". That's just way too much to ever expect of another person. Only you can make you happy, and only once you do that will you be able to find someone else to be happy with.

I wonder sometimes if maybe you shouldn't go on some sort of "relationship diet" until you deal with some of your own shit - I'm sure you don't believe it, but it did wonders for me. It's so incredibly liberating to not feel all this pressure to find someone, to have someone, just because it's the Done Thing. I spent the better part of six years of my life wishing I had a boyfriend (either just in general, or

[count_of_sonoma]

Interesting take on the happiness thing ... see, I kind of agree with the directive not to choose based on who will make you happy, but then it's also a definitional sticky spot becaus clearly a great relationship is a source of happiness, remove the significant other from the relationship and said happiness dissipates - there seems to be a causal link between the other and the happiness, or simply stated, you are made happy by the other person.

And yet Only you can make you happy, and only once you do that will you be able to find someone else to be happy with makes a whole lot of sense despite the linguistic failure to express the added happiness.

I guess what it is, at least for me, is that true coexistence, in the sense of a sort of cosmic resonance, of two souls "in phase" in the manner of two photons (to use a rather romantically apt physics analogy), enables a degree - perhaps best thought of as an upgrade - of happiness that at its best can probably be referred to as love. ... yeah, that seems to resolve the definitional

[fionabhair]

I definitely never meant to sound like I didn't think having a good relationship was a source of happiness - on the contrary, some of the happiest times in my life happened with I was with someone I really cared about =) My point (and I probably muddled this a bit, since I think I was half asleep when I wrote that) was that you can't go into a relationship expecting the other person to fill some sort of hole in your life and make you happy (as opposed to adding to your happiness). When you're depending on another person for something as basic as happiness, the relationship changes from co-existence to co-dependence, which I think everyone agrees is fairly unhealthy

[starinathe_sun]

highschool really does never end. Are you up for coffee tonight (got lots of talking to do...and I'm in Sebtown) I'll call you later