"last responsible moment" decisions

[much_ado]

if you've been following my relationship writings for any length of time, you've probably encountered my glee at the frequent cross-over applicability of project management terms (i come from a fifteen year background as a tech writer in software development) within relationship management.

there's a principle in Agile and Lean development

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[bridgeoutahead]

*applause*

BRAVO.

it's well-written, witty, thoughtful, insightful, I'm mentioned, AND....it clearly demonstrates that YOU'RE BACK :)

and the halls rejoiced.

Any chance we can get together before the holidays for a visit?

[the_nita]

*wry grin*

So you're back, you say?

Love you.

[j_v_lynch]

"personally, i see a value in knowing what all the options are before choosing one; i hate thinking i missed doing something interesting or fun because i opted for something less so;"

Interestingly, research into happiness, seems to indicate that people are, in general, happier with their decisions when they have less choices (and less ability to backtrack or change their mind), although they claim that more choices will make them happier.

[lightcastle]

If I recall that research, it is a curve. Too few they are unhappy, to many they are unhappy.

[lightcastle]

I do think there is a balance thing going on here. There is probably some amount of framework to provide structure, within which some last possible moment decision making can happen.

No, I don't know how to build it,either.

[zingerella]

Hmm...I'm now thinking, because I've been on both sides of this, and it has sometimes driven me nuts, and cost me money.

I think one of the principles that needs to be clearly articulated and agreed-upon for "last responsible moment" decisions is when, indeed, the last moment is. I've missed out on things because I was waiting to hear from someone about whether they would be available. I've caused great annoyance to my friends and loved ones with the contingent nature of my own plans-"I don't know whether I can join you for [event], because I haven't heard from [sweetie] about when they're coming to town. Oh, you need to make reservations for [event], today? But I can't get ahold of [sweetie]! Well, I guess you'd better count me out, then," and then [sweetie] is broke or can't come to town, and it's Friday night and I'm alone, and annoyed because I am neither snuggling with [sweetie] nor at [event