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mostlyfoo

Names and Narratives

Jun 23, 2013 14:21

So the name thing is mostly that I want to do it once in terms of most of the official paperwork as getting banks, bills, drivers licences and other tat all done as well as retraining work mates is going to be a bother, and I don't want to do it and then 3 or 6 months later realise I have to do it all over again as I made a mistake ( Read more... )

names, gender

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mrvi June 24 2013, 16:28:33 UTC

I think it's interesting that you've made the split between concious and unconscious mind. Consider this ( ... )

mostlyfoo June 24 2013, 22:25:52 UTC

Indeed, the conscious and subsconscious are in many ways made up of lots of bits and bobs and assorted parts of me that shift around, but by and large the bulk of awake me that considers itself me at any point is what I call my conscious self, the rest that provides prompts and does all the auto-pilot things I consider my subsconscious, and the constituents of both these labels are changable really ( ... )

mostlyfoo June 27 2013, 10:30:22 UTC

Also because I think my previous reply came off as random and possibly ignoring your excellent advice - THANK YOU, your continued support has been awesome, especially as you continue to engage with round after round of this particular flavoured bullshit from my head :)

bodybag_pilgrim June 26 2013, 22:31:18 UTC

This may be bollocks due to me misunderstanding processes, and if so please ignore and accept my apologies.

But it seems to me that part of transition is a bid to bring conscious and unconscious assumptions into a more harmonious whole... and under those circumstances, I'd incline to going with your gut.

mostlyfoo June 26 2013, 23:18:36 UTC

My gut says I don't like alliterating names on me (on other people they're fine). A lot. An awful lot. This is basically where my objection to just running with Tabi since last summer has come from ( ... )

bodybag_pilgrim June 26 2013, 23:29:20 UTC

Welp, that's a big ol' conflict right there. Hrmm... Is there a 'worse' between, say, Tabitha Phoebe Tipper and Phoebe Tabitha Tipper?

(It occurs to me that an ideal would be a name that shortens to Tabi but has a prefix rather than a suffix.)

mostlyfoo June 26 2013, 23:56:12 UTC

Yup, but its also possibly a delaying tactic being fielded by my brain to avoid the scaryness of coming out at work, despite the fact they all know and I think more than 50% of my office have me friended on facebook, but its more the having to deal with it everywhere thing - which is true that I don't feel truely ready but fuck it, the double living thing is just crushing me at the minute.

See I really rather like Phoebe Tabitha Tipper, the aesthetics of the shape of Phoebe are really nice, its got a nice meaning, it keeps my initial and I can probably shorten it to Foo most places, but it doesn't really seem worth using if my brains going to mope if I don't go by my middle name everywhere, I've had split names and identities before and it really bugs me after a while. I'm just trying to work out if just having it there as a middle name would be enough to placate the attached bits of brain matter.

Yeah as a suffix or a middle part of a name would work, looking on names.darkgreener I can't find any in recent use, babynamespedia's ( ... )

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