The one where I finally mention 3 of the elephants in the room.
I just went through a month’s worth of email, cutting and pasting bits of interest for a big Entertainments entry. The last paste crashed Word and I lost it all. I could reconstruct it of course. I have Google mail so ‘move to trash’ does not mean delete. I’m just not sure I want to do the work again
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It stinks because I *have* to watch television for a while for my research project for school. Ugh.
2. "I’m just having trouble actually living with him." Does he have a hobby? I'm asking because my own hubby drove me crazy until he picked up fishing. Now we're both busy all the time; me with school, and him with going/preparing for/reading about/thinking about fishing. It's done wonders for our marriage.
3. I think your friend would probably love to hear from you, and would be grateful if you shared in her big moment. AT least, I think if I had a success like that, I'd appreciate people telling me they were proud of me, even if I hadn't heard from them in a while. I don't think she would mind you using this as an opportunity to get back in touch.
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I have that same elephant. I seem to do best in some ways when I'm on my own, then there are other ways in which I function much better with a lover around to help me regulate myself. My current decision is that a lot of my root problems in relationships I've had are from my problems with myself. I seem to lack the self-discipline to tackle many things when there's someone else with whom I can distract myself. So, uncomfortable as it is, I'm planning on being on my own for a bit.
I don't now how I'd handle it if I were in a committed relationship and trying to 'fix' these bits of myself. I think it would be much harder. Maybe I'd pick small goals and work toward them, or perhaps ask my partner to accommodate me or work with me in areas where I get pulled off course?
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To be honest, I have no idea how well I would function without the responsibility of kids, husband and house. I might just sort of curl up in a ball and think, "Why bother?"
I suspect that depressions would be less frequent but more persistent for me if I were more alone in the world.
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2. Are we talking Energy Vampire drainage? Do other people feel this same way around him?
3. A card, a congratulations, something low-impact like that would work.
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2) Excellent question. 'Made me figuratively stop in my tracks and think for a while. I asked R-- about it and he had much the same reaction. He doesn't think that he affects the guys from work, for example, that way. He's a strong introvert so he doesn't gain energy from being around others. Interestingly, though, he says he does find MY company energizing. We've decided that I'm his blood doll.
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2. What a charming image. Does R-- know how to draw energy from an element, such as the ground or the air?
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He's done very well when formally encouraged to ground but he doesn't think about it otherwise. This is certainly something to consider and practice.
You are so good at reminding me of what I should already be paying attention to. Thank you.
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Yup. Anywhere would be good. We haven't gone on a vacation since before my ten-yr-old was born. I've had a couple of girlfriend weekends, and Gmom & the kids weekends, but that's it. I'd most like to hole-up in a cabin or hotel for a week ... all by myself. It's far more likely, however, that I'll get away with my husband--and that would be good too.
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