I vote yes on the door-hold line. When I try to do it at work, that's always the time the person I'm holding the door for isn't actually heading toward the door. I walk pretty quickly most of the time, so I hope if I don't open the door for someone because they're a little too far behind me, by the time they get through the door, they see that I'm way ahead of them and are just like, "Oh, she's in a hurry, that must account for her refusal to stand there holding the door open for 45 seconds."
Can you imagine that there is probably a place where there are two doors right next to each other and half the time you hold it open for someone, they're headed towards the other door and you have to stand their holding the door open like a fool, and the other person is like, *finger gun* "Gotcha!"
What I used to do when I noticed someone coming up behind me was to throw the door open as I walked through it. If the other person was actually in a hurry, they had enough time to slither through the door as it swung back closed without having to actually make physical contact with the door. But this felt rude to me. It's like I'm saying, "Jaime sees you. Jaime hardly cares."
Oh, man. My brother holds open doors for people who are many, many feet away. It's unnecessary. I'll lose him and turn around to find him straggling behind ten people. I don't hold open the door unless someone is immediately behind me.
That's also a nightmare, when you hold the door open for one person and inadvertently end up holding the door open for an entire family of ducks. "I didn't agree to this."
There you are. I guess WP has stopped putting you in my feed (not that I've been incredibly active over there).
The all-important door-holding question for me comes down to a) if I'm in a hurry, and b) how fast the other person is moving. If it looks likely I'll be holding it for longer than 10 seconds then I have no problem abandoning my post. It's not like saving someone dangling off a cliff, for instance, which I would devote at LEAST 30 seconds to.
Mostly I wanted to say, glad you haven't vanished entirely. :)
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What I used to do when I noticed someone coming up behind me was to throw the door open as I walked through it. If the other person was actually in a hurry, they had enough time to slither through the door as it swung back closed without having to actually make physical contact with the door. But this felt rude to me. It's like I'm saying, "Jaime sees you. Jaime hardly cares."
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The all-important door-holding question for me comes down to a) if I'm in a hurry, and b) how fast the other person is moving. If it looks likely I'll be holding it for longer than 10 seconds then I have no problem abandoning my post. It's not like saving someone dangling off a cliff, for instance, which I would devote at LEAST 30 seconds to.
Mostly I wanted to say, glad you haven't vanished entirely. :)
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Yeah, if they can't pull themselves off a cliff in thirty seconds, they don't want it badly enough.
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