A Difference of Opinion

[mizuki_hana2]

Last night I promised Gaerfie a kid free day, for taking such good care of me when I had no sleep. This morning I got up to get the kids and found a horrible sight! Gaerfie had left the diaper bag in the room and the kids had gotten into the tubes of diaper cream! They smeared on themselves, all over the walls, and their beds! I help my composure

Comments

[meganeko_mausuu]

Oh goodness, diaper cream? That stuff is soooo sticky... too bad you didn't get any pictures of them while they were covered in it, it'd be really funny later when you calmed down. I remember a phase when my eldest bratling was younger, she loved to get into her mee-maw's makeup, even though she knew she wasn't supposed to, and everytime our back was turned, there she'd be, covered in mascara, or something.

Yeah, I think Gaerfie overreacted a bit, maybe he was angry about having part of his kid-free day yoinked due to a technicality, and in the moment, sometimes we make decisions we regret later. I'd wait until he's had time to calm down, and the kids are asleep, then talk with him calmly about it. Tel him you were upset about the way things went this morning, and why, but if you can manage it, try not to make it sound like it's all his fault. (Even if you think it is.)

[promised]

You have every right to disagree with how he handled it. Sometimes my BF overreacts to what the kids do & I have to remind him .. especially with my daughter, that she is TWO & doesn't have a full understanding of things yet. It's not an excuse, but there should be definite leniency in how they are punished & disciplined. My guess is he walked out like that because maybe he felt like he was undermined in his authority. That's a problem I've had around here before. That's just a guess based on my own personal experience.

[uncacreamy]

I think you're right, on many fronts, and I've come to that conclusion by having a really hard to handle toddler, and having many reactions like he has. Many many. I've slowly come to the conclusion that the only way to really have control of the situation, and teach them anything good, is to be calm and not stoop to their level. Engaging them the way he did is inappropriate and does little except to teach them that angry retaliation is okay. Wash them off, make them clean up the mess, sit them in a thinking place for the number of minutes due to their age, accept apologies and move on with everything.

I think he left in an angry way because of the exchange between the two of you, the emotional crap from his exhange with The Gnome, and perhaps the unspoken 'this is your fault to begin with', due to the bag being left in the middle of the road.

I have these kinds of confrontations with Eric too, and he with me. You'll be ok.:)

[uncacreamy]

sorry, middle of the ROOM.

[ladycash]

A mess, all the way round.
I agree that he overreacted, however.

I also agree with uncacreamy points.
Give it some time, then calmly discuss
it, and ways to handle it next time.

(b'c there's always a next time, lol)

[anonymous]

In my opinion, you were absolutely correct in your actions. He overeacted to the situation, if he didn't, he wouldn't have objected to you going into the bathroom, he knew he was wrong for treating The Gnome unfairly. I would stand firm until he apologizes to you and The Gnome for the mistreatment. By the way, who was it that left the diaper bag in the children's room? Hmmm, sounds like he is misdirecting the blame from him onto a toddler, how mature is that? Stay strong in your decisions. Punishing them equally was the right choice, and sending them to their room was better than yelling and mistreating the child. Sounds like he was taking out all of his fustrations (from your arguement and being angry with what both the children did) on The Gnome, and that's not right.