Grandmother's time

[miluda]

I went downstairs today, because it felt different. Usually on Saturdays my parents leave to visit my grandmother. I usually take my brother and drive to meet them to have dinner together. I didn't even go downstairs for anything except that it felt different

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[laylea]

I don't know what it's like to have good grandparents. My grandmother was verbally abusive, and my grandfather weak-minded and weak-hearted; no one's left on the other side of my family, gone before I was born. My grandparents are inevitably declining too, both physically and mentally. I think your grandmother is doing better than they are when I think about it.

But I will not be sad when they die.

[miluda]

She is only doing better because the person she doesn't trust is taking care of her. My mom.

My grandmother can't walk anymore, she is confined to a wheelchair and can't do most things... amazingly, she can still use chopsticks which I still think takes very skillful hands.

I don't think I'll be very sad either, in fact, I had thought about how much it would probably lighten, the load on my mother... and I wonder if it's bad to think that way...

I don't think wishing death on anyone is good...

[lemonfruitpie]

I always love to read your writings, even when they're about sad things like this. You really have a way with words.

Reading this reminds me of my grandpa, who is a vegetable right now. I know you weren't close to your grandma but it's still a saddening thing to see *hug!*

[miluda]

It is, yes. *hug* Thank you!

[classicalprick]

While my own grandparents aren't nearly that far along, I've encountered similar situations with my great grandmother. It's sad seeing someone have to ask you your grade or age multiple times a day (which she did when I spent a week with her a few years ago), I hadn't really seen her since, but supposedly it only got worse.

The worst part is, my family has been such a mess lately, I'm not even sure what her currently situation is. As bad as this sounds, I think she passed away, but I'm not sure. =/

It's always sad to hear about this kind of stuff, you might not have been close to her, but it doesn't make it any easier, I'm sure. Sorry to hear about this.

[miluda]

Thanks for the comment. I'm sorry to hear that you don't know the situation with your grandmother... that's a little sad to think that things are so messy right now it's hard to even know what's going on...

[classicalprick]

Yes, it is quite sad, it's not exactly something I can ask either, or I'd feel even worse than I do about not being sure.

"Hey mom, is great grandma dead or not? I forgot." Just doesn't sound right to me.

Also, sorry for spending too much time on my own similar situation, I'm bad like that. But I do understand how you feel, is my intended point.

[miluda]

It doesn't sound right to me, either. When things happen like that, it really should be known, it's quite important...

No, it's fine, feel free to talk about yourself or anything else at any time! I never thought it was bad of you at all.