Grandmother's time

[miluda]

I went downstairs today, because it felt different. Usually on Saturdays my parents leave to visit my grandmother. I usually take my brother and drive to meet them to have dinner together. I didn't even go downstairs for anything except that it felt different

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[selphish]

My grandma was like that before she passed on. It was really, really sad, but I still loved her tons.

[miluda]

90 is a good age. That's a long life, I'd say. I think it's fine that she's like this now, she's actually a lot more nicer this way than she ever was with a "clearer" mind.

It's been a lot easier on my mother, who has been going through some things with my sister which is an entirely different story that I might leave for another day.

I actually don't really have much attachment to my grandmother in many ways, but she had always been a part of my life in some way, so I suppose there's still something there.

[kappuchino]

I was partially raised by my grandma- she was my babysitter for a long time- and I was one of those kids that got spoiled rotten by grandma. Not all the time, less so as I got older- I have a few younger cousins, but mostly young second cousins, that her more spoiler-y attention got shifted to. But it felt like I was there all the time even when I was older, before she passed away.

[miluda]

I didn't know most grandmas here were like that. I thought everyone had a grandmother like mine, it wasn't until I got up to about high school age or so that I realized that it wasn't true. Kids think like that, when their parents are a way, they sometimes think everyone else has parents that do the same thing.

Grandmother had a traditional thinking so there was actually a barrier she put us between us... and as a little kid, I wanted to break that barrier.

It wasn't until after she had her first stroke that I succeeded, but I am sure she hardly remembers it at all.

[innamoramento]

I wasn't close to my grandparents. I never got to see them slowly lose their grip on reality, though apparently my maternal grandmother was a bit strange for quite a while... I never noticed, because when I saw her it was only briefly, when she was in the hospital after a heart attack, or when we visited for a few hours after my uncle David's funeral. Both my paternal grandparents passed away before they reached that stage. So I can't say I know what it's like, but I can imagine it's hard, watching that happen...

::hug:: I can understand where your mother is coming from. If you or siblings decide to be parents, I hope she can use that inspiration to be the grandmother she wanted for her children.

[miluda]

I've never had a grandfather on my dad's side, only grandmother... and on my mom's side, I only had a grandfather, and he died in 2003. No grandmother on my mom's side.

I'm actually not attached much to grandmother, but her having been in my life for all of it, I guess something is there. It's something I can't really think of, I can't really feel, since she had never been one of those grandparents on TV that spoiled the grandchildren rotten. I only remember her hating me for being second-born child and female, and being really mean to my mother. But I don't hate her at all. I can understand her thinking...

*hug* I'm sure she would be that kind of grandmother. My mom is a special mom, I love her very much and I wouldn't be the person I am today if it weren't for her. Unfortunately I don't think I would have children unless they were adopted... a lot of children without parents...

[zatsuyo]

*interbutthugs* I know what you're going through. I watched my Grumpa (hurr) lose grip of reality in a sense towards the end, he became paranoid and didn't know who some of us were. He thought my father and oldest uncle were not his children, that he was only raising them for Gramma's sake (I have noooo idea where he got that from), and he even thought there were German spies among us, and some really crazy things I don't remember right now.

They never spoiled me or took me anywhere, I think they took my cousins everywhere because they were boys. My other Gramma, however, spoiled the fuck out of my brother and gave him everything he's ever asked for in life without any questions. I ask her for tuition money and get, "I'm not a fucking bank." Around her I have to stay quiet and do nothing or my mum'll RAGE at me for no reason. I still love her lots. My brother, meanwhile, insults her behind her back and never visits her.

Well that was pointless. I'm sorry. :[

[miluda]

*HUGS!!!!!!* Nah, it wasn't pointless, thanks for the comment. It's interesting and sort of sad the way the human mind deteriorates after a while... they mix all sorts of things up and forget who they are or where they are...

Yeah, they like boys too, traditional thinking in Chinese culture, so my brother would get most of the attention... and my sister was liked for being first born, and I was nothing since I was not only second born but also a female...

[zatsuyo]

Holy fuck that is exactly how it is in my entire family. All the grandchildren are boys except for myself and another, and she happens to be the first born of all the kids so everyone loved and spoiled her rotten. B> new family

[chibi_bahamut]

:( Man. I'm sorry to hear that about your grandmother. Not having the relationship with your grandma the way your mom intended to have, and the inevitable degeneration of an aging person... shit, it depressing.

and shhh, don't tell Kim, but *HUUUUUUUUUUG*

[miluda]

Depressing, but it's life, I suppose.

and shhh, don't tell Kimberly, but *MOOOOOOLEST...*