What makes a good wedding?

Jun 24, 2007 16:19

I'm still over the moon to be marrying Rarg, but I'm now feeling daunted about organising the 'special day'. Obviously (because it's us) it won't be a very traditional day, but I can't figure out what will be different about it. I'm also not keen on getting out a second mortgage for it, so it will be on a manageable budget. I'm having trouble ( Read more... )

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deluwiel June 24 2007, 17:22:12 UTC
I haven't been to an awful lot of weddings, but as your coffee buddy I will put in my bit.
Can you tell me about a wedding you really enjoyed? What did you like about it? My Aunty and Uncle got as many friends and family to help out where they could, they let everyone who had a camera take the pictures, my Uncles brother provided the reception music. It made the day really personal to them rather than having a professional do all that, plus it makes it a bit cheaper too! My Aunty, like youself, is not a traditional lady, she wasn't into the 'white wedding' and like you didn't want to spend a fortune, so she just went out to some of the more up market high street shops (John Lewis, Monsoon, House of Fraiser) with a budget of about £200, and bought the nicest dress she could find for that amount of money. She got her dress from Monsoon in the end, it looked lovely, was very 'her' and she's gotten use out of it since.
What is the most tedious part of going to someone else's wedding? Having to sit through a loooooong service that could be ( ... )

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kashinthegreen June 24 2007, 17:25:31 UTC
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kashinthegreen June 24 2007, 17:28:36 UTC
I left out the worst disaster! Probably through trauma. My eldest brother's second (of 3) bride came down the aisle to Whitney Whouston's "I will always love you" played through a tinny PA. Made worse by having heard the same at a funeral the week before. They also were the only couple I have ever seen include "you may now kiss the bride" *makes sick noises*

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misterwilson June 24 2007, 20:50:25 UTC
A couple of general pieces of advice:

1) Relax.
2) What you and he want is more important than what anybody else wants. This is one of the few days in your life that is entirely about you.

We kept ours very low-key. Simple registry office ceremony and a pub reception. Wrote our own vows. I wore my only suit, and my wife bought a red dress from the high street. No photographer except our friends, and the guy who takes a shot when you sign the register. I've been to big-party-type weddings, and they're great. But that wasn't what we wanted.

Biggest hitch was when the registrar insisted on putting the ring on my left hand - I wear it on the right - and a little awkwardness between my parents.

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nicnac June 25 2007, 08:20:54 UTC
Can you tell me about a wedding you really enjoyed? What did you like about it?
My friend Lynn's wedding in London was great. I liked it because the church was stunning inside, so there was something to look at during the preachy bits. Also the evening venue was in a crypt below the church, which made logistics very easy but also was pretty cool!

What is the most tedious part of going to someone else's wedding?
The preachy bits in the wedding service and the photos if they take a long time. The photographer took over 2 hours at one wedding I attended and everyone was dying on their feet. One tip - if you're serving drinks whilst the photos are being taken, serve some nibbles too to avoid everyone getting too plastered too quickly.

Do you think present lists are useful or boring?
Useful!

Do you think dancing is an important part of a wedding?
It's fun, but I wouldn't say it's the most important part.

How would you feel if there was music you didn't like?
Your wedding your choice.

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sorcha June 25 2007, 08:27:49 UTC
There's a load of stuff about my wedding up on my website so have a look as to how the day went and some of the organisation stuff ( ... )

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fi June 25 2007, 09:42:02 UTC
Heh, I was just going to say "talk to sorcha! Brilliant wedding, very untraditional, hugely memorable. And seconded re: Nick's photos, they were excellent.

One thing that every friend of mine who's got married has experienced is family pressure ("oh, you have to invite your second cousin Nigel, he invited auntie Mary to that christening in 1973"). Don't give in to it. It's your day and you should invite who you bloody well like and not feel obliged to ask people you don't know or don't like.

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Can you tell me about a wedding you really enjoyed? What did you like about it?
sorcha's, definitely, simply because it was relaxed, and unorthodox, and everyone there was lovely, and it was held in a wonderful setting. The fact that everything from the catering to the photos was done by friends gave it a really special feel. Plus I was a bridesmaid!!! I think that some (and I'm only saying some) traditional church-hotel-disco weddings can be a little stilted in atmosphere.

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