Listen to me Sister Midnight, you put a beggar in my heart

[medusasowl]

I am pmsed and can't sleep. Apparently, it makes Cleo nervous when I try to sleep so she yowls till I come back into the livingroom. I'm going to look into this and see if it helps

Comments

[alles_toll]

I agree with you about all of these, but especially number 4.

And I don't buy into the idea that meanness/selfishness is human nature either.

[medusasowl]

I don't buy into that either at all. It's a sick fad, imho.

[galleon_lore]

1. Males are competitive creatures by nature, even when not actually in competition. During such times, when the nature of the competition is ill-defined, the factor being competed over defaults to which of the males present is the 'most male'. Thus, that which is female ('female' here being that which is the least 'male' possible, due to the fact that most people cannot manage to deviate from a two-gendered system and thus cannot envision anything becoming less male without becoming more female) is deemed inferior

[medusasowl]

Wow, I wasn't expecting actual answers! Thank you! It helps a little to get some perspective on it... although I still want to smack these individuals with a clue-by-4.

[profhauke]

RE: number one

The INSTANT one of my students found out I was gay, he started talking about how much more understanding I'd be than a "normal person" about his problems.

I don't know why I suddenly felt irritated about that statement, but I did. Was it because I buy into and like the masculine stereotype, and he was insinuating that I wouldn't be stoic and emotionally distant like a "real man" would be?

Was it because he was telling me I wasn't a "normal person"? He meant it as a compliment, and I should have prefaced this by saying he doesn't consider himself normal due to some learning disabilities he has. Maybe he meant queer people face discrimination, just like he must occasionally deal with people who look down on him?

Is it just because he's been wearing me out, coming to my office and talking about everything under the sun except things he should be talking about--topics from class?

I have yet to put my finger on it.

[medusasowl]

It may be a combination of those, hard to say. It's strange how people respond to us completely differently once they know we're gay, even though we haven't changed at all.

Answer to #1

[purpleivey]

It's actually because of badly repressed womb envy. See, they seriously admire women and gays, but feel so unworthy in comparrison that they feel the need to put them down so as to make themselves feel that they are not quite as distant in awesomeness.

This may or may not be a serious answer - I just finished listening to the Muppets sing the 12 Days of Cristmas and do not trust my filters at the moment ; )

Re: Answer to #1

[medusasowl]

lol, I need to watch/listen to more muppets. They make me smile. Jim Henson is my imagination guru <3