I'm Angry Now

[maychorian]

Okay, I said in my first post about this that I wasn't going to say anything else. I was wrong. I have something else to say. It's only tangentially related to All This Stuff, but it's important to me. At first this whole thing didn't mean that much to me, just Someone Wrong on the Internet, but I've been reading too much again (that curse of

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[smilla02]

*hugs you up*

Unfortunately there's nothing I can say to make it better, but I strongly believe that you have the right to be angry.

[maychorian]

♥

[nwhepcat]

Yes. There is not enough WTF in the world for these demands and this attempt at intimidation.

I'm sorry you are having this bring up so much old stuff, but I'm glad to hear your voice in this.

[maychorian]

♥ I'm glad my voice was heard!

[embroiderama]

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. But your anger is justified and awesome.

[maychorian]

♥ Thank you for your post, too. I really appreciated hearing a level, well-reasoned opinion BEFORE this all went kablooey.

[debbiel66]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. So grateful you have such an awesome family that supported you. And I'm also thinking anger sounds like a healthy thing.

[maychorian]

♥ My family is very awesome, yes. I hear about girls who told their parents (or other adults) about being abused and those parents dismissed as lying or just mistaken and I...I hate those stories.

[debbiel66]

♥ My family is very awesome, yes. I hear about girls who told their parents (or other adults) about being abused and those parents dismissed as lying or just mistaken and I...I hate those stories.

What stood out for me is that your family was also willing to talk about it later and work it through with you. I think that many families (my own growing up, for sure) would have dealt with it when it happened but then never mentioned it again. Thanks so much for sharing that... really made me think.

[maychorian]

I still remember the look of devastation on my mother's face when I told her in my sophomore year of college that was I was still having problems and I needed to see a counselor. I could see that she felt like she had failed somehow, but she hadn't--she and my father had always been very open about talking with me and helping me when I had problems. It's just that this kind of experience is so very, very toxic. It takes a long time and a lot of work to mitigate its effects, and it never truly disappears completely.

[jedishadowolf]

*hugs* I'm sorry this whole deal is upsetting you. I totally agree with you, victims do not need to come into the spotlight and confront those that made them feel victimized. It's a choice on their part to do so and no one should ever force them into it.

You're totally justified in your anger, I just wish I could do something to make it better for you.

[maychorian]

♥ I'm doing all right, thanks hon. I wish I was able to feel angry like this more often, honestly. It's kind of liberating and energizing, even if it does make me sick to my stomach.