Love is a Battlefield

[malakijr]

I've been holding this in for a month or better, trying to find the words to say it, and when I found myself wanting to gut some stupid blogger tonight, I realized it was time. I have a lot of anger in me, and generally writing brings this to the surface

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[peskipiksi]

That song rocks. I also <3 "Love is a Battlefield."

I have no advice, not even "I would" or "I did," because I've never been where you have and I have no idea what I'd do, besides cry a lot which wouldn't actually change anything, even if it made me feel better. But I love you and I have seventy thousand kinds of respect for you writing this post, because saying all this is probably one of the things that I would not be able to do were I in your situation or anything like it. Even if it helped.

Also, being fat doesn't have to stop ANY woman from being cute, pretty, or sexy, and I know it's never stopped you because I have photographic evidence, so WTF therapy dude?

[malakijr]

I was so excited at the show that day to hear the opening lines and I said "Oh! He's sampling 'Love is a Battlefield'!" I got some weird looks from the younguns around me who weren't around in the messianic era when that song came out, but I really think the rap adds to the song. Even before this, every time I heard "Love is a battlefield" it always meant more to me than just a "relationship" song, I've loved a lot of things in my life. I still do. And fuck, love IS a battlefield (and Christians are the only army that shoot their own wounded, haha). James Taylor Jr., besides being somewhat unfortunately named, is an awesome guy. He's so gay (and I can say that if I want to because I mean it as a compliment) and i hope he has a lot of success because he's talented (as is his sis singing with him, Cynthia, and she's totally hot in a backless shirt, too

[malakijr]

LJ truncated my post. *cries*

I'm writing a novel here. And I'm not mad at you and Rachel, I'm just saying you got me thinking again, and I wanted to say "Yes THAT, but also THIS" because I've been outraged for months and it gets worse for not saying it, but I didn't know how to say it, and finally this post was born. And I've been up all night and probably won't sleep at all for the next 36 hours because of work. but I had to say SOMETHING. I'm getting a book in the mail called "Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws by Kate Bornstein, and perhaps that will help me, maybe it will say some things I need to hear. I'm hoping. I need something.

[peskipiksi]

I think Rachel and I both said "if you're not outraged, you're not paying attention" because so many people, including women, are sitting around doing nothing while their reproductive rights and basic respect for them as human beings go down the tubes, and shrug and say "so?" It's like, um, hello? Are you not NOTICING what all this means?

Though I think the phrase is applicable to just about everything else, and that it's only useful up to a point. We can get outraged all we want, but at some point we've got to use it or we're going to be turned into incubating wards of the state (or "whiny bitches playing the role of the victim to get attention" or whatever nasty epithet gets inserted) while we're not looking.

but at some point we need to slough off the maligned crap and just admit that we say and do horrible things to each other without laying the blame game.Call me crazy, but I've never understood how we (we women, I mean, though I'm sure this applies to men too) are supposed to stand up and say "we are grownups and expect to

[maritov]

Psychiatrists are idiots. I don't have too much respect for the whole mental health establishment at this point (I got sent to therapy when I was little and the therapist thought I was nuts because I had an active imagination and so when she made me play with the dollhouse the dolls would get pregnant and have abortions and beat on each other and whatever), my mother is a therapist and seems to actually help people. But she's a feminist mental health counselor, not a psychologist/psychiatrist, and that's what I think makes a big difference

[malakijr]

Thanks.

there is NOTHING WRONG with taking loans to pay for school even if you are not going to use the degree. I think we should make college affordable to everyone. And how were you supposed to know when you started college where you ended up after?It's more that I can't pay the loans back right now because the small payments I make don't even cover the interest that depresses me. I had a creditor totally bash me over the phone because the payments I'm making aren't covering anything and she went on about what a terrible person I am to keep that debt piling up and that people like me would be better off dying and LEAVING SOCIETY TO THE RESPONSIBLE PEOPLE. yES SHE SAID THAT. aND i KNOW WE'RE SUPPOSED TO IGNORE CREDITORS, BUT THAT HURT

[tara_pa]

Huge hugs

You've gone though so much more than anyone should have ever had to go through. That therapist was/is a jerk. :(

hello

[tjamesb]

I am gonna be totally honest, I have not read the whole thing yet, and I still have to go to bed to get up early for work...

Well, YouTube has this INSIGHT thing showing me where videos are linked from, if its searches, what the searches are, or external links, and yours linked to my video. I was shocked to see people actually LINKED to MY video! LoL.

And well I did read pieces and parts, and I am saddened and joyed simultaneously (I know I spelled it wrong, eek!)...

I am glad that the song touched you as well. I am glad you enjoyed the sampling (my boyfriend's idea which was INGENIOUS, absolutely fit everything I wanted to say) as well as the... rap. LoL. Which I don't usually do, but sometimes there is only one way to say things. I know I rapped twice in the performances at WMP... but I do sing a lot more than rap. Haha. I hope you continue to enjoy my songs and my performances.

God Bless (or [Entity/Universe] Bless, LoL).

Love,
JaMeS