I've had the creeping feeling that Atlanta just isn't home for quite some time, and I've expressed it here a few times that I can remember. I've tried to do things to make it such, but...eh
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I think it would be cool if all our friends and family mass migrated to someplace else. It'd be UCLA all over again! Everybody in shouting distance of each other. However, I am totally against the Bay area. Chiefly what I'm interested in is affordable prices for houses (definitely not Bay area) and good schools (I am so not mortgaging my life away for a school though). I know no one else is married so they aren't going to be too concerned about schools but duuuuude, someday y'all will be concerned. :D
Maybe it's a lack of connections, of friends who are willing to make me a priority. ~ mahka42 It sounds like you're looking for a bff? Do you have one? It sort of sounds like you're waiting for them to invite you? How about you take the initiative to invite them first to things? I've found that nothing will happen if no one plans it out and sometimes you have to be the planner.
Re: Crazy IdeacowslayerOctober 21 2007, 16:54:02 UTC
I totally second this. Taking initiative is important a lot of the times to cement yourself as a social staple in people's lives. And a bf, if you're ready, is a wonderful idea.
In a sense, I dream of Bay Area myself. But it's only cuz it's something I've known and liked during my carefree teenage years. If you don't feel Atlanta though, change will always be good. In the next place you just gotta be more proactive because it's no longer as easy to make friends as it was when you were packed with a 100 18 year old people on a dorm floor and nobody knew anybody. People our age are just more cautious and less interested.
Re: Crazy Ideamahka42October 21 2007, 20:15:08 UTC
Heh, like I said below...I go for the initiative, but...I don't get any response back. Which just ends up in a positive (negatively) feedback loop.
You'd think that people would continue to be willing to meet new people. I don't get it. The weird thing is...I've met a few others who feel the same way I do.
it could be an issue of working on friendships? do you feel like you have any truly close friends in atlanta? i think that could contribute to it not feeling like 'home.' i don't want to make this about me, but i've lived in a few places now, and i can say that each place did feel like home -- but i think it's because the people who are there contribute to making it enjoyable and comfortable.
I think that's the thing...I don't really have any close friends here. My question to myself is why though. I do what I can to be proactively social, but it only gets me so far.
I feel this way often about Denver! I love this place but I keep comparing it to somewhere else. I think I've made it my home though because I know that I used to feel a lot worse than I do now so it's prolly growing on me and starting to feel like home now. I still struggle with the friendship aspects though, I don't really feel like I fit into whatever friend groups I have available to me; again though I'm prolly making comparisons to friend groups I had in other cities. Why don't you move here! I'm a music dork and I've learned a little something of how to deal with Asian quirks :-p
I know my opinion prolly doesn't carry much weight yet but I support you moving back west, it's prolly gotten into your blood which is why you miss it in unique ways. All those little things that feel sorta off, I know what you mean by that and they do add up.
Best of luck either way though, I'm sure you'll do what's best for you in the end :-)
Hah...and what kind of quirks are those, white boy? :-p
And...I don't know. I haven't been in Denver enough to know if I'd meld with the city.
I just realized something...I considered Emory and by proxy, Atlanta, for my undergrad career, and decided against it because it didn't feel comfortable. Yet when I walked onto UCLA's campus, I immediately felt at ease and excited, to the somewhat dismay of my mom since UCLA was technically the "lowest ranked" by US News other than my safety school. Interesting how things like that come back to us.
Well I don't know much about school rankings or for that matter which schools are best for what your studying but if you did stay in Georgia what would you think about Athens; I hear it's supposed to be a great college town. I've never been to UCLA but I do know UC Berkley seemed like a really neat place.
Perhaps you'll move back to California and stop along the way for a visit here in the beautiful mountainous state of Colorado where you'll be able to meet me (your scenery tour guide) and we can discuss such topics as Asian quirks and the weather over coffee or tea or the like. ;-p
lol. coffee, yeah right. you've been trying to get into my pants since adding me! :-p i suppose if i ever stopped through denver and didn't say hi, i might get slaughtered.
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Maybe it's a lack of connections, of friends who are willing to make me a priority. ~ mahka42
It sounds like you're looking for a bff? Do you have one? It sort of sounds like you're waiting for them to invite you? How about you take the initiative to invite them first to things? I've found that nothing will happen if no one plans it out and sometimes you have to be the planner.
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And a bf, if you're ready, is a wonderful idea.
In a sense, I dream of Bay Area myself. But it's only cuz it's something I've known and liked during my carefree teenage years.
If you don't feel Atlanta though, change will always be good. In the next place you just gotta be more proactive because it's no longer as easy to make friends as it was when you were packed with a 100 18 year old people on a dorm floor and nobody knew anybody. People our age are just more cautious and less interested.
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But yay! Take the initiative! *rah rah rah*
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You'd think that people would continue to be willing to meet new people. I don't get it. The weird thing is...I've met a few others who feel the same way I do.
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I know my opinion prolly doesn't carry much weight yet but I support you moving back west, it's prolly gotten into your blood which is why you miss it in unique ways. All those little things that feel sorta off, I know what you mean by that and they do add up.
Best of luck either way though, I'm sure you'll do what's best for you in the end :-)
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And...I don't know. I haven't been in Denver enough to know if I'd meld with the city.
I just realized something...I considered Emory and by proxy, Atlanta, for my undergrad career, and decided against it because it didn't feel comfortable. Yet when I walked onto UCLA's campus, I immediately felt at ease and excited, to the somewhat dismay of my mom since UCLA was technically the "lowest ranked" by US News other than my safety school. Interesting how things like that come back to us.
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Perhaps you'll move back to California and stop along the way for a visit here in the beautiful mountainous state of Colorado where you'll be able to meet me (your scenery tour guide) and we can discuss such topics as Asian quirks and the weather over coffee or tea or the like. ;-p
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