I didn't get the "too/so young" thing a lot. But it's still annoying. Just like when you hit the 7 year anniversary and you get the "ooh, 7 year itch!" quip. Total STFU moment.
Actually, I hear the "no one should get married before the age of 30" type comments more now then I did back in the day. It's still hogwash. When you're ready, you're ready. (deep comment is deep)
Thanks! (and now that same sex marriage is legal in NY state, here's to more folks getting a chance to make it to their tin anniversary--altoids for everyone!)
I got married at 25 (he was 24) and approaching the 3 year mark in a couple of weeks. Not very impressive yet, but if all continues to go well, there should be tin and whatever other metals anniversaries eventually! But yeah, I got a couple of the "young" comments too, which weren't nearly as annoying as "So will you be having babies soon then?" and "You're not changing your name? Why not?" D:
Also, I second the separate blankets thing. They can easily be combined for snuggles when necessary, but it's really useful to have them separate, especially at very cold or very warm nights!
As for the "gotta get breeding" crap, I REALLY hate when it's in wedding vows. Yeah, I get some folks are all religious and it means something to them but for me it's like you're skipping over the emotions of the two adults committing themselves to one another because the only reason to get married is to have the babies (that won't be bastards!).
I also hated how the "gotta get breeding" comments were always phrased in the "don't want to disappoint your parents" way ("when are you going to GIVE your parents grandbabies?"). Yeah, because THAT'S a great reason to have a kid, to make your MOM happy. *eyeroll* And I'm fairly certain that my parents would rather be gifted a restaurant gift card (or something USEFUL) then a crotch fruit.
People actually put kids in their wedding vows? Bleh. But then again, that IS the most important aspect (or even the only real reason) of getting married for certain people.
Haha, restaurant gift card. Yeah, my parents have never even asked about grandchildren (and hey, they have two through my sister already), they're not the type to do so. But others... (coughbrother-in-lawcough) are not so ... subtle. He can just randomly ask over family dinner, "So, when are our boys getting cousins?"
The most infuriating thing is that there's several, y'know, economic and practical reasons for us to wait, but that seems to be lost on these people who ask. Only one income and only a one bedroom apartment and no car? No problem, GET BREEDIN'.
Also, the only good reason for anyone to have a kid is if they WANT ONE. Not because someone else in the family wants more relatives, or because you need someone to take care of you when you get old, or for the good of your country.
Congratulations on the tenth anniversary! I will keep that tip in mind! (now if only there was a tip for snoring that I could share with my parents :P)
Really, 24 is considered too young?
Man! I wish that was the way around here, where people consider me a big failure because I'm not married at 31 (and that has been going on since I was 22. Meh, few people care about other kinds of achievements).
That's one of the perks of getting married "so young" *eyeroll*. You can avoid the whole "when are you going to settle down" comments.
So few folks care about other kinds of achievements because they are lazy. Asking "are you maried?" or "do you have kids?" is an easy shorthand to get basic info on folks. Personally, I rarely have to ask either question to folks I just meet. If they have a spouse and/or children they're all eager to mention it (even in passing like "my husband is home with the kids").
I don't get why people are so concerned about other people's lives. It's always either 'you're too young to marry' or 'too old to be single' or 'you are too young to have children' or 'when are you going to have kids?' etc. People go through their lives at their own paces - and relatives/friends should respect that.
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Big congratulations on reaching the 10-year mark! That's great!
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Actually, I hear the "no one should get married before the age of 30" type comments more now then I did back in the day. It's still hogwash. When you're ready, you're ready. (deep comment is deep)
Thanks! (and now that same sex marriage is legal in NY state, here's to more folks getting a chance to make it to their tin anniversary--altoids for everyone!)
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I got married at 25 (he was 24) and approaching the 3 year mark in a couple of weeks. Not very impressive yet, but if all continues to go well, there should be tin and whatever other metals anniversaries eventually! But yeah, I got a couple of the "young" comments too, which weren't nearly as annoying as "So will you be having babies soon then?" and "You're not changing your name? Why not?" D:
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As for the "gotta get breeding" crap, I REALLY hate when it's in wedding vows. Yeah, I get some folks are all religious and it means something to them but for me it's like you're skipping over the emotions of the two adults committing themselves to one another because the only reason to get married is to have the babies (that won't be bastards!).
I also hated how the "gotta get breeding" comments were always phrased in the "don't want to disappoint your parents" way ("when are you going to GIVE your parents grandbabies?"). Yeah, because THAT'S a great reason to have a kid, to make your MOM happy. *eyeroll* And I'm fairly certain that my parents would rather be gifted a restaurant gift card (or something USEFUL) then a crotch fruit.
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Haha, restaurant gift card. Yeah, my parents have never even asked about grandchildren (and hey, they have two through my sister already), they're not the type to do so. But others... (coughbrother-in-lawcough) are not so ... subtle. He can just randomly ask over family dinner, "So, when are our boys getting cousins?"
The most infuriating thing is that there's several, y'know, economic and practical reasons for us to wait, but that seems to be lost on these people who ask. Only one income and only a one bedroom apartment and no car? No problem, GET BREEDIN'.
Also, the only good reason for anyone to have a kid is if they WANT ONE. Not because someone else in the family wants more relatives, or because you need someone to take care of you when you get old, or for the good of your country.
/rant!
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Really, 24 is considered too young?
Man! I wish that was the way around here, where people consider me a big failure because I'm not married at 31 (and that has been going on since I was 22. Meh, few people care about other kinds of achievements).
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That's one of the perks of getting married "so young" *eyeroll*. You can avoid the whole "when are you going to settle down" comments.
So few folks care about other kinds of achievements because they are lazy. Asking "are you maried?" or "do you have kids?" is an easy shorthand to get basic info on folks. Personally, I rarely have to ask either question to folks I just meet. If they have a spouse and/or children they're all eager to mention it (even in passing like "my husband is home with the kids").
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I don't get why people are so concerned about other people's lives. It's always either 'you're too young to marry' or 'too old to be single' or 'you are too young to have children' or 'when are you going to have kids?' etc. People go through their lives at their own paces - and relatives/friends should respect that.
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