"Blast" from the Past...

[lupinebear]

I've been weeding through stacks of paper from what now seems like lifetimes ago, and I came across a letter from my mother from near the end of our "Gay Wars", which I publically wrote about this past National Coming Out Day. The goal of that post, and also of this one, is to try to give the younger generations an idea of what that they do *not*

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[schnee]

Egads. No disrespect for your parents, but wow, that really is the biggest load of bullshit I've read in a long time. From playing the victim card, the idea that the one asking for acceptance rather than the one asking for silence is making unreasonable demands, culminating in the notion that you're forcing your "gayity" upon others, twisted logic and non-logic, attempts at emotional blackmail (threats of being ostracized and shunned; the whole "keeping your word" bit; the notion that you'd "inflict pain" on others by coming out to them) and so on, it's all there.

I'm quite stunned that as little as 15 years ago, people could not only not accept that others, including their closest relatives, are gay, but that they could also be so utterly blind, indeed unwilling to see, as to why said others wanted to not hide who and what they are.

You're right, we really have come a long way.

[fingertrouble]

Oh I know this - in 1996 I came out to my parents...and things have changed a lot since then, although as the Post Secret (someone else's) I posted then deleted on FB said 'As I've grown up I've had to accept my parents will never be who I need them to be' and that sadly still stands. My dad has never been truly comfortable, whatever he says.

But with no grandparents, thankfully I was spared that...although by all reports my Paternal Grandfather was very like me, I suspect he would have been OK with it.

[fingertrouble]

Ow. And I thought my mother could be passive aggressive. Still I like your Mother's take on gender, that we are all one gender (that doesn't sound Xtian? ;-) ) and the sign off...your mother writes very well

[wotan_tyger]

You know

[lupinebear]

Thank you. Your perspective is enlightening. *hugs*