"Blast" from the Past...

[lupinebear]

I've been weeding through stacks of paper from what now seems like lifetimes ago, and I came across a letter from my mother from near the end of our "Gay Wars", which I publically wrote about this past National Coming Out Day. The goal of that post, and also of this one, is to try to give the younger generations an idea of what that they do *not*

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[fingertrouble]

Ow. And I thought my mother could be passive aggressive. Still I like your Mother's take on gender, that we are all one gender (that doesn't sound Xtian? ;-) ) and the sign off...your mother writes very well.

But I've been in this situation with friends, a close friend asked me to never divulge to another anything about his new partner to his ex...he got really upset when I said no - although I basically did - but it killed the friendship with his former (now current confusingly) - partner. It's why my reaction to the part which says 'they're on the periphery of your world' is immediately to respond with 'why would that be?' because I know that pulling away all to well. It's what I did with that friend; the price of watching yourself 24/7 is way too much, easier to avoid them.

So yeah, a horrible thing to ask, whatever the 'kind' reason, it will always cause extreme turmoil. Sadly yours is not the only case I've heard of, it seems quite common to do the 'don't tell granny' gambit. I left my Dad to tell or not tell his relatives, but I wasn't going to hide it.