Um....kids....and um....motherhood.

[lunar47]

No I am not pregnant. But for purely fic reasons, I was wondering if all the mothers out there (or parents in general I guess) would be willing to post their feelings on the following questions. Let me backtrack and tell you why I need this. I am STILL writing "Five Times Kara Breaks" and the last vignette deals with Kara and Kacey. I want to be

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[stardust_20]

It's a tough one to define, let me tell you. There are days when I feel downright Homer Simpson-ish and want to strangle them (sometimes all 3) but for the most part they are adorable little angels

[lunar47]

thank you so much for this. It's hard writing about emotions I have never experienced before and I don't want to break the believability of the story. I may hold off on asking for beta services for a week or 2 since I will be doing lots of cat stuff and the story is turning out longer than expected. I will let you know by email or by commenting when I actually send it.

[stardust_20]

I understand. And good for you in doing research instead of just guessing. :)

No worries on the story - I was just bugging you when I prodded the other day. I've always got plenty on my plate so I can hold off a while too. Besides kitties need you - you have to be there for them. I wish I could have cats but my middle child is horribly allergic. :(

PT 1

[becisvolatile]

I can speak as someone who really wasn’t ready to be a mother, mentally or practically. I was still in college when I found out that my contraceptive implant had failed and I wasn’t just pregnant, I was pregnant with twins

PT 2

[becisvolatile]

I’m a clutz by nature and I can remember carrying Dante down some stairs when he was about 3 months. I fell down the stairs, broke a rib, and the whole time managed to keep him elevated and mostly out of harms way. Lots of little things like that happen when you become a mum. Before that I would have done anything to ease my fall, but with my boy in hand, the fall and my own body was honestly the last thing I considered.

Everything takes second place to your children, even the well being of other people.

I’m going to stop with the essay, but I imagine in relating this to Kara you have some things to consider. You have a woman who is already hot headed, recklessly so. I think she’d become a lot more focused with that if she had a child in her care.

But emotionally relating? That’s got to be hard without memory of carrying or giving birth to Kacey. I’m thinking Kara would need to see herself in the way Kacey acts, or recognize something there before she was really hit with that “Gods, I’m a *mother*” thing.

Re: PT 2

[stardust_20]

Aw, you've got 2 boys? How sweet! How old are they now?

I've got 3 myself (not twins thankfully!) but my third was an 'oops' as well. :)

I can understand the fiercely protective thing too. I don't feel that way in general, but I do with some people. People who want to take from them (like my mother in law - grrrrr) who MAKE them give her hugs and kisses and who grabbed my babies right out of my arms saying 'of course I can hold him'. Those people just make me see red - I feel like 'they're MY kids, don't touch!'. But of course they don't get that when you pull back and refuse to let them have the kid.

Re: PT 2

[becisvolatile]

Twin boys, 1, Dante and Faust. Little demons that make their Mummy very proud.

God, you got one of those mother in laws too? Mine tried to feed mine formula milk when they were a month old because she didn't want them becoming 'attached' to me.

I don't like her.