Things I Think About - Emotional Fidelity

[lucyruthe]

I’ve been toying with the concept of intimacy recently, and the blurry line between emotional and physical intimacy. I was watching this show a couple weeks ago where a character claimed that cheating emotionally in relationships was harder to deal with than cheating physically. I’m not sure that I have a concrete opinion on that issue, but it

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thank you

[ext_3547713]

Thank you for sharing. It can be difficult to put yourself out there like that.

[lucyruthe]

You're lovely. Thank you.

[llythefaerye]

This genre of thought has been rattling and cannonballing around in my brain a lot lately, too. It has been a genre that bubbles up for me on a fairly frequent basis over the years. Partly, I suppose, because I'm - well - weird. I know - ha ha - "we're all a little weird", but . . .

I still consider myself largely an introvert, although I have - I think - a little more balanced view of that term than I once did. But, I connect to people in - although it seems perfectly logical(ish) to *me* - a way or ways that I find (more and more) are not the norm. In classic "introvert" fashion, I tend not to let a lot of people "in", but when I connect to a person - whether I let them in (or they get in) or they let me in or both, whichever direction(s) the flow moves - that Connection locks in within me with medieval iron deadbolts, it seems. When it's Connection with a capital C, it is intense. I have come to accept that I need that intensity. Not all the time, and certainly not with everyone. But it is - without a doubt - a large

[lucyruthe]

I know what you mean about that form of connection. I'm aware of a number of specific people who connect in that particular way. I've seen it go both positive and negative, depending on how they handle it. I dunno, for a long while now I've come from the perspective that you can't control how you feel, just what you do about it.

I agree that no one person can take all that energy, and there needs to be a full support structure. But I also think long term relationships require the work to maintain a fairly intense connection or it's easy to drift. If you're not both committed to maintaining that level of closeness, you eventually just start going through the motions. And that's where things get complicated.

I also agree that the lines change for every relationship. Every relationship is different and has it's own agreed upon lines, hopefully expressed and established by those involved. But, ya know, relationships are as variable as people themselves.

[llythefaerye]

I agree whole-heartedly.