be calm, oh be calm, I know you feel that you are breaking down

[lucia_tanaka]

What did you learn today, everyone?

I learned that my Grandmother thinks who I am is wrong.

• I am too opinionated and sensitive as a person.
• I should have been baptized and raised as a Christian.
• I mouthed off to a bestselling author and shouldn't have been surprised when my mother didn't want to talk to me about it--

No, that deserves it's own list

Comments

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[emilyjbgay]

This is a bit awkward... but what I want to say is that you'll get through this. You probably feel horrible, and I might not be helping, but I believe that everyone has hidden strength. Strength that keeps us all moving when things get tough, and keeps the world rolling in the direction of peace and acceptance.
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I hope that a good nights sleep helps you, because these words are all I have to give you, and they aren't that much. I hope you dream of good things tonight, and I hope tomorrow you can face the day with older eyes yet still see the brightness of the world.

[lizzy_someone]

*hug* You did the right thing, and you are the right person exactly as you are. I'm sure you know that already, but sometimes one feels better after being reminded.

I don't know how closely your experiences match mine, but I'm guessing there's a good chance you have been or will be told by a lot of people that you should come out to everyone, as much as possible, that it's your moral responsibility for the ~greater good~, and I for one just want to say fuck that shit, for what it's worth, I am totally behind your decision not to come out to your mom, no matter how accepting she might or might not be.

[tabitha_rasa]

"Something of a mistake?" No. No. No. And also? NO. I understand that your relatives may have given you that awful impression, but I hope *you* don't buy into it, because... NO.

You're YOU, a unique individual with your own beliefs/values/convictions and the passion to stand up for them, and that's *never* a mistake. Like the rest of us poor schmucks, you may *make* a mistake (like mentioning "Wisconsin" to Rajah :ulp!:), but you will never *be* a mistake.

...Mmmmn I'm sleep-deprived, long-winded, and quite possibly not making much sense, but what I really wanted to say was "Sorry you're getting crap from family. Wish there was something concrete that I -total stranger and Twitter stalker- could do to help." Take care, Lucy!

[purplekitte]

Poor dear. It's hard and sometimes we all talk to someone even knowing we're going to regret the conversation because we need someone to talk to. Best wishes on getting through how you're feeling right now and don't forget the world has kittens and pirates vs ninjas slash and corndogs.

[lady81bird]

The thing is - you are you. There's nothing else you can be. And all of you, however subjective or not understandable or wrong it might seem to others, is one of a kind and therefore important. And while the approval of our close ones is always important (very, very important) - you can't really compromise what you truly believe in to achieve that approval, because you would be losing something far more important that way - yourself.

I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. I hope it will get better soon.