congratulation, temptation, validation, reconciliation, trepidation, termination... determination?

[lovemotionstory]

the above are the "shuns" of my life. ups and downs that leave me somewhere in the middle.

two quick examples...

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yesterday, i caught up with a friend i haven't seen in over a year and hardly spoken to has temporary moved back to portland. the last time i saw him was when stephanie and i went to the bay area. right before we left, i

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[lovemotionstory]

me too, but not as sorry as i feel i should be. this worries me.

[sarapada]

i was just so happy he made that call because, sometimes when you know you've hurt someone you love and who loves you, that first hello again can be the hardest thing. i am going though some hey-i-am-being-honest-about-your-crappy-behavior with a couple other people right now, so to have geoff pop back up in my life was so reassuring.

sticking to your principles can be hard, being the kind of friend you would want someone to be to you can be hard, not enabling your friends' unhealthy behaviors can be hard. they may get mad at you, they may try to make other excuses for why they're mad at you and flip it around on you, but it can also work out in the end - or, you know, over a year later. what's more is that the friendship will be an honest one and you each will be the better for it and the next time you call them on unhealthy behavior they may not listen, but they may be less likely to totally flip out / accuse you of things without basis / hurt your feelings.This is something that I need to work on a lot - thanks for your

[lovemotionstory]

i think this is a thing most people struggle with. when we become close to each other, the lines between polite, constructive, understanding, enabling, and so on all become blurred.

thank you.

[anonymous]

Translation: boys.

[quadhome]

Translation: boys.

[lovemotionstory]

some of it, yes.

I know how it feels to be shunned

[anonymous]

It sux badly especialy when you don't understand why. Or when you sought help from someone who obviously knew more about things that could have helped you.