"if people think badly of me based on hearsay, they're not really friends, are they?"
that's exactly what i'm trying to avoid with my friends in Cali. it's just that my previous experience fuels my suspicions and presumptions. hell, i know how much i've changed in the going on 3 years since i've seen them - i'm in no place to judge anyone, let alone friends i was once very close to. it does bug me tho. i think this is one of those instances when i'm being judgemental IN PART becuase of faults i see in myself.
yay for self-empowerment! i couldn't agree more that being the best you can be - and let the chips fall where they may is a great philosophy. trust your instincts! *hugs*
I think it's different to believe someone would act a certain way now, based on their past actions, than to believe someone would act in a way that you have no basis for thinking they ever did. in your case, you know someone behaved a certain way in the past, and from what you've heard, you have come to believe she still behaves that way. Now, for one thing, I know enough about you to know that if you talked to her in person, you'd be open to anything she had to say on her own behalf, and even if you came away thinking that, after all, she hadn't changed, it would be based on your own judgement, not on rumor
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damn, you do know me pretty well! ;) i agree, there is a distinct difference there. because of what i have experienced and witnessed with these two it troubles me to hear these rumors and feel in the pit of my stomach that it's absolutely true - that the nature of their relationship as become more complicated as it matures along the same vien, and in my opinion, is terribly abusive. just the same i don't think i have earned the right to speculate further without checking my facts - getting their perspective. i feel a discombobulated emotional rant coming on so i'm going to stop here
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paragraph 1: from what you've written about this situation, I can definitely see why you're having those feelings. And anytime you want to let loose a discombobulated emotional rant to me via e-mail or phone, feel free
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that's exactly what i'm trying to avoid with my friends in Cali. it's just that my previous experience fuels my suspicions and presumptions. hell, i know how much i've changed in the going on 3 years since i've seen them - i'm in no place to judge anyone, let alone friends i was once very close to. it does bug me tho. i think this is one of those instances when i'm being judgemental IN PART becuase of faults i see in myself.
yay for self-empowerment! i couldn't agree more that being the best you can be - and let the chips fall where they may is a great philosophy. trust your instincts! *hugs*
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