Losing virginity for girls

[ravelda]

I don't think this has been answered here yet. I'm writing a scene where a girl loses her virginity. I would like to know how many girls do/don't have an orgasm the first time they have sex, and how many feel pain from their hymen. I Googled different phrases, but I found a lot of porn sites and sketchy information. Not what I'm looking for. So...

Comments

[crescendoll328]

An orgasm is unlikely. For me, personally, it hurt at first- not too bad to keep going, though- and the pain only lasted a couple of minutes. I'd say it was about as bad as bad cramps, if that helps at all.

[were_lemur]

Losing mine was physically a combination of uncomfortable (partly due to the fact that we were in a non-operational sauna, on the wooden bench, at the time, but partly also because of the whole "huge him, not so much me" factor. (By which I don't mean he was above average, more that I'd never had anything bigger than a couple of my fingers up there ... okay TMI, but you get the picture.

Menally, though, it was kind of "Oh wow. I'm having sex. I am actually having sex! With a guy and everything!"

(For purposes of establishing my non-typicality: I was nineteen, I'd decided a few months ago that it was time to lose my virginity before I actually got into a serious relationship and had to add that baggage to it, and this was a guy I'd met at a party about 45 minutes ago.)

[rinna_delenn]

no orgasm, no pain, no bleeding

[tasyfa]

I don't have a link to the stats or recall them exactly, but there was a study done last year that ended up with something like 73% of Canadian women did not orgasm their first time. As others have said, most women are unlikely to orgasm from just intercourse regardless of experience level - clitoral orgasms are usually more readily achievable.

Pain from virginity loss is not only, or necessarily primarily, from hymen breakage. I'd already torn my hymen in dance class years prior to losing my virginity (which, yep, it did hurt. More like one sharp pain as it ripped and then a deep throb for a while; uncomfortable more than agonising.). My first time was actually more painful, due to the stretch of previously-unused muscles for a more prolonged period of time. The second time there was some soreness but no real pain, and then that was that.

Also - and this amuses me immensely now that I'm technically all grown up and familiar with slash fic - my brother had given me the advice to make sure I could take at least two fingers before

[kayt_arminta]

For me it hurt, a lot.

Thankfully I'm a masochist and got off on the pain.

Proper prep, like foreplay, probably help. A few orally induced orgasms will help her relax so she isn't as tight as she could be.

[kayt_arminta]

Also, if this really is her first time, the muscles of her inner thighs will probably feel stretched and possibly painful. I was walking bowlegged for a couple of days from it, using muscles I don't normally use and all.

[originalpuck]

I'll second the leg situation. I know that my legs weren't used to the positioning and extension, and so I started trembling at some point. My legs definitely felt uncomfortable for awhile after it, and I know that for the next few times I'd had sex I had the same situation with my legs trembling and feeling-- well, not neccesarily pained, but definitely uncomfortable, like the unusual attention your muscles feel after a good work out/session of yoga.

[kayt_arminta]

I know no one ever warned me about it, and it sure as hell didn't come up during sex ed courses, but I REALLY would have appreciated a heads up about it. Next day I got out of bed and was so stiff I nearly fell. If I'da known to expect it I would have gotten off my bed with a lot more caution.