Comments | lisefrac: Unnecessary grumpness

lisefrac

Unnecessary grumpness

Jan 31, 2014 16:38

I look back on this post from yesterday and realize it was really grumpy. Unnecessarily so. This is my apology for that ( Read more... )

people that you meet, introvert, sadness

Comments 6

akiko January 31 2014, 22:03:23 UTC

Do you want people to respond to the hypothetical advice column letter in comments? I have some ideas, but I don't want to give unsolicited advice.

lisefrac February 1 2014, 00:35:59 UTC

Sure, I'd appreciate that. Thanks for checking in first :)

akiko February 1 2014, 17:50:38 UTC

I've learned to always ask :D Posting a hypothetical advice column letter does seem very invitation-like, but I wanted to make sure ( ... )

witticaster January 31 2014, 23:28:31 UTC

I'm pretty much constantly thinking about "social maintenance": "If I turn down too many invitations, will we stop being close friends?" and "I would like to know X, Y, and Z better, but will I be able to commit that much more social energy?" Some of my oldest and best friends have gotten used to hearing from/seeing me once a year, but even that can add up.

I consider you to be a pretty awesome and inspiring individual, and am glad we can sort of vaguely keep up with each other through the relatively-low-social-cost medium of LJ, though it is also lovely to see you at other times.

skyknyt February 1 2014, 01:37:21 UTC

I think this is why cons are great. You get some more or less planned days for social activity, and then guaranteed downtime.

The downside is when you start attending every con, and thus don't get the downtime. This is hard because that first con is ALWAYS amazing, how could I possibly turn down another one?

But the reason that first con is so amazing is because there wasn't one planned. It hadn't turned into a commitment, which is really the problem.

qnmark February 1 2014, 03:01:33 UTC

Is it 100% fine to feel grumpy and to express grumpiness and to be prickly. Fuck this "must be cheerful all the time" shit. If you're feeling burned out, it's fine to talk about it - this way we can know not to bug you to run Cracks or something. And when you have a lot of commitments to juggle, it's very easy to burn out and start dropping out of answering emails about the less critical commitments. It's fine and expected and you don't need to apologize.