This is not a language-related question, if you ask me. No offense, but have you ever watched gay porn? Yaoi and [you must mean]shounen-ai are just fantasy. There are similar rape fantasies in pornographic photosets and videos. You may be misunderstanding the genre as a female.
I'm not trying to belittle rape and abuse. Consent is huge in all communities as far as I'm aware, but media produced to be a sexual fantasy is not real sex. Maybe you can write a letter to the CLAMP ladies and ask them.
I think it is, because it's about the use of words "no" and "don't" and the shift in meaning depebding on the context. I doubt that it's about rape-fantasy. I know that "slash"/ "boys love"-Mangas are written by female authors and read by girls and women, not by gay men. No, I only read Mangas.
Well, that's not just about "yaoi" or "shounen-ai", it's about how sexual scenes in Japan is different from other countries. You might think it's kinda perverted or sickening, but it is like a spice added to sex for guys to hear women saying "no" and yet accept it. Most of the time, it's not abusing or raping, even the one who'd happily have sex with a man would still say "No", "Don't", "Ouch" as opposed to what her heart says "yes, yes, yes".
This kind of "ignored-protest-pattern" at sex being accepted in the society of Japan is sometimes misleading, though, leading men to think that women protesting doesn't mean they don't want. This is especially in the case of people coming from western countries. They might not be able to discern the difference between the accepting "No" and the protesting "No".
I think, that's it. It seemed to me like the old fashioned convention of saying "no" at first, because saying "yes" at once, would have been seen as immoral. Because of many misunderstandings that it caused,it disappeared/is seen as wrong in western countries and "yes" means "yes" and "no" means "no" , now.
A lot of people have been much more eloquent about the possible responses your question, but I would like to second all the people saying that it's a trend that is found in a straight porn/hentai etc in Japan as well as in yaoi/BL.
I just wanted to add - in an attempt to bring this back to a linguistic place - that I do remember seeing "Soko ha dame!" ("Not there!) appearing as one of the top ten sexy phrases that men want to hear in an article in Vivi magazine, a magazine for college age women a few years ago.
Well to be fair (like some commenter before me said) it's a trope you can find in Western Erotica too, like the 'bodice ripper' trope akibare mentioned. Although perhaps not as wide-spread, but 'bodice ripper' is almost not a trope anymore but it's close to being a sub-genre.
At least that's what I gathered by listening to people much more knowledgeable in romance novels than me (like the people at Smart Bitches Trashy Books). I myself have only a passing acquaintance with the genre.
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I'm not trying to belittle rape and abuse. Consent is huge in all communities as far as I'm aware, but media produced to be a sexual fantasy is not real sex. Maybe you can write a letter to the CLAMP ladies and ask them.
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No, I only read Mangas.
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Watch Japanese heterosexual porn or go read some hentai: you'll see exactly the same thing (just with more tentacles).
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This kind of "ignored-protest-pattern" at sex being accepted in the society of Japan is sometimes misleading, though, leading men to think that women protesting doesn't mean they don't want. This is especially in the case of people coming from western countries. They might not be able to discern the difference between the accepting "No" and the protesting "No".
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Your punctuation and capitalization is somewhat out of whack.
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I just wanted to add - in an attempt to bring this back to a linguistic place - that I do remember seeing "Soko ha dame!" ("Not there!) appearing as one of the top ten sexy phrases that men want to hear in an article in Vivi magazine, a magazine for college age women a few years ago.
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Well to be fair (like some commenter before me said) it's a trope you can find in Western Erotica too, like the 'bodice ripper' trope akibare mentioned. Although perhaps not as wide-spread, but 'bodice ripper' is almost not a trope anymore but it's close to being a sub-genre.
At least that's what I gathered by listening to people much more knowledgeable in romance novels than me (like the people at Smart Bitches Trashy Books). I myself have only a passing acquaintance with the genre.
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