I need to be able to discuss my limitations if I'm going to feel safe in a place
What are your limitations? maybe it would feel better if you wrote them out and just gave it to them in writing to consider?
As for the love, when a person goes silent and starts radiating "nobody wants me" it's VERY hard for people to get to know them, if not impossible. What helped me back in the day was putting on the persona of "my truest, confident, unafraid self" and eventually I merged with that self. How would you act if you had no insecurities? If you were sure everyone wanted to know what you had to say?
My limitations, hmm. Some days I won't be up for being social or for work if some form of that as in the garden is expected of me. I sort of hide myself away in my room and get socially anxious even with those I really like. I have particular ways of processing things that's helpful to be accommodated to, which requires a listening around differences. It can take me a while to unlearn old habits and do what's expected of me. Nothing major, but if I'm shamed or made to feel wrong for any of these things that does not help. There are times that I'm a hell of a lot more sensitive and may need others to be aware of that.
Also, goes quiet and radiates "nobody wants me"... I'm confused about where that came from, could you explain, please? Are you referring to my description of the party or my writing itself or...? It was just a quiet night for me, generally, and I don't think I was feeling that or radiating that until I got to the party which I promptly left realizing I wasn't up for it.
And my limitations do depend on the context. I won't necessarily know what they are until I find myself in a situation I can't handle. A lot of them probably have to do with sensitivity and neuroatypicality.
Wow, near 90 degrees? Maaaan, I wish we had something like that kind of weather. It's so gloomy, rainy and dreary here right now, we NEED sunlight and we need higher temperatures. Your bike ride sounds like it was a great time. I miss bike riding.
Under $300 dollars for rent at that place? Damn, I would take that in a heart beat. That's not a bad deal at all.
Yep, the rent itself is really good. I think I'll inquire about it. I can't just live with anybody nowadays though, so a lot more has to go into my decision than just rent.
My mom tells me how cold things have stayed in the north and hardly showing signs of warming up. Sounds like the longest winter ever. Whereabouts are you?
Ugh, it has most definitely been the longest winter ever! I'm up in Rhode Island and Massachusetts (I bounce from here to there, live in RI and I hang around in Mass a lot because family lives there!). The weather is actually lightening up, though, especially the temperatures since this past weekend! So thankfully, we're getting some nice walking weather now.
Also, good luck with your living situation. I'm the opposite of you, I would rather have someone living with me. But it's all good! I hope you find something that suits you and your needs <3
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What are your limitations? maybe it would feel better if you wrote them out and just gave it to them in writing to consider?
As for the love, when a person goes silent and starts radiating "nobody wants me" it's VERY hard for people to get to know them, if not impossible. What helped me back in the day was putting on the persona of "my truest, confident, unafraid self" and eventually I merged with that self. How would you act if you had no insecurities? If you were sure everyone wanted to know what you had to say?
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Also, goes quiet and radiates "nobody wants me"... I'm confused about where that came from, could you explain, please? Are you referring to my description of the party or my writing itself or...? It was just a quiet night for me, generally, and I don't think I was feeling that or radiating that until I got to the party which I promptly left realizing I wasn't up for it.
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Under $300 dollars for rent at that place? Damn, I would take that in a heart beat. That's not a bad deal at all.
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My mom tells me how cold things have stayed in the north and hardly showing signs of warming up. Sounds like the longest winter ever. Whereabouts are you?
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Also, good luck with your living situation. I'm the opposite of you, I would rather have someone living with me. But it's all good! I hope you find something that suits you and your needs <3
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