Wow, that was really interesting. And it clarified a point for me. I want to lose about 10 pounds because I feel better when I'm 10 pounds less; not because I'm going to be some superstar or be a better person somehow. It's a quality of life issue for me. My knees like me more when I weigh less:P And I will note that 10 lbs less is still considered somewhat high according to some measures.
problem is, accepting yourself is only half (at best) of the problem. if you're left out of stuff and people avoid you and shun you because of your weight, you're still as lonely and out of it as ever.
I love, love love Kate Harding and the rest of the bunch at Shapely Prose. It's awesome that you and Gilly linked to this. I've been doing a lot of reading lately about the fat-acceptance movement and HAES and the more I read, the more sense it makes. I wish I could get everyone, especially every woman I know, to consider giving up on the fantasy in favor of just being their fabulous selves. Still, I'm not sure how to spread the love without making people uncomfortable. For instance, the folks on my friendslist who use their journal to post their weight-loss stats, and other friends on weight watchers - I'm not sure how to post a link or broach the subject without making them feel targeted or self-conscious.* Now that I think about it, I could just follow your example and refrain from editorializing. (But that's so hard
( ... )
Er, that last line should have read, "join those who want a a just world for fat and thin alike." Although a just world for thinkers wouldn't be a bad thing.
Comments 5
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Leave a comment