Strange

[leastconcern]

I'm jealous for the first time. Or at least, feel put out. Steph and Griff go to the same school, get to see each other a lot more than I ever will, and I think they had a "talk" with Steph's parents. He's still over there, and I haven't talked more than 20 minutes with either of them today. It's strange, because I've never really felt like this. I

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[aineotter]

Man, that's rough. I'm not sure how I'd handle having to hide a relationship in front of parents (or anyone). Maybe there are things they could do to help you feel more included? 'Cause that could be a really devaluing feeling.

All but one of my relationships is long ditance and my folks are hours away, so how much I tell them is on my timetable; I'm doing it slowly. Angi's parents know about all of us (she's been in poly relationships most of her life, and they've known, so it's not new). My Bear doesn't really have a lot of contact with his bio-family, so it's not much of an issue. His mother does knows he's getting married to Angi, and won't even know about me most likey, but then we'll probbly never meet. But I still occasionally have quibbles about Angi being the 'real' legal partner, even though I *know* that makes no difference in how either of them feels about me. These things aren't always rational.

[leastconcern]

Yeah, that's how it feels. I mean, I really don't care if my own mother is aware of my relationship, mostly because I don't care what she thinks. I will be talking to them about it, and I know they'll think of something (hopefully).