So, the part where you posted pictures of yourself cutting in order to emotionally manipulate everyone into feeling sorry for you and wound up triggering people as a result.
Please don't. Turn the internet off, walk away, and work with your plants. (That's not sarcasm--I don't know you, but they seem make you happy, so go do that.) They are assholes. They will continue to be assholes. You cannot change that. Please, however, for your own sake, step away. Their anon-stalking of you is creepy as fuck; don't do posts like this that leave the door unlocked.
I love (/sarcasm) the fact that everybody focuses on how your public self-harming could trigger others and not on how you had actually been driven to self-harm by the words of others. Being driven to self-harm is a big deal, and in this case it has been greatly minimized. Saying something -ist on the internet doesn't warrant the level of retribution that would cause somebody to start cutting. And I don't think anybody has the responsibility to censor the expression of their own suffering for the sake of others, although I do feel bad for the innocent people who got triggered
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I think what got everyone all raged up was the fact that I compared SJ-related terminology to botany-related terminology, like, that spelling trans man "trans-man" is precisely equal to calling an Anthurium a posy, and they also believed that I was being dismissive and saying something like "I spend more time around plants than I do around people, so I should be allowed to go around breaking all the rules of conduct and get away with it."
Which was completely not the point, but as the old saying goes, "no1curr."
The funny (except not actually funny at all) thing is, I do generally try to take things to heart - if someone tells me that something I said in what I believed to be an innocent context is offensive, I'll stop saying it (unless I'm deliberately going out of my way to be offensive). Of course, I've also said that I generally don't understand why things are wrong/offensive, which also annoys people quite a bit
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If anyone wanders in here wondering what the deal with my being harassed anonymously over cutting, transphobia, or any other thing along those lines, I will direct you to these posts so that you may see the mostly unadulterated versions of what occurred. Please come to your own conclusions.
Coming from a complete stranger - I'm so sorry you're in this mess.
That entire sf_d dogpile is one of the sickest things I've ever seen. The hypocrisy is palpable. As far as I can tell, the only thing you did wrong was present a well-reasoned argument for why it's not helpful to fly into a rage about small mistakes in nomenclature ..... thus causing everyone else to fly into a rage about a gross misunderstanding of your metaphor.
Once again, I don't know you, so there's not much heft behind my comment here, but please don't let these rude, self-entitled, delusional creeps bother you any more than they already have. No one can say what they would have done in your situation. You don't owe anyone an explanation, because you didn't do anything wrong.
I especially loved the person who said, "I don't care about your cutting". Really? You call yourself an advocate and a community you're in online bullied a girl so much that she cut herself, and you don't care? I guess because she's a ~transphobic monster~, she no longer deserves to be NOT bullied to the point of self-injury.
I felt physically ill reading about what happened to you (came here from F!S). sf_d is a cesspool, I already knew that, but I had no idea how low they could go. The idea of so many ganging up on one person like that is very upsetting to me (it happened to me IRL, don't want to get into it now because it's a very unpleasant story and I don't want to upset you, you've been through enough), and I know it happens, but good lord.
There is a lot I'd like to say, but I don't want to make things worse, so I'm just going to say this: fuck the haters and live your life how you want. Don't feel like you have to hide because of them, and please, don't harm yourself any more because of them- they're not worth the space they're taking up.
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If you're interested, here's the post that started this whole mess, verbatim. Honestly, I still don't understand what's transphobic about it.
I think the thing that bothers me most about this whole thing is that everyone expects you to be totally into learning about this stuff ( ... )
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Which was completely not the point, but as the old saying goes, "no1curr."
The funny (except not actually funny at all) thing is, I do generally try to take things to heart - if someone tells me that something I said in what I believed to be an innocent context is offensive, I'll stop saying it (unless I'm deliberately going out of my way to be offensive). Of course, I've also said that I generally don't understand why things are wrong/offensive, which also annoys people quite a bit ( ... )
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First: http://users.livejournal.com/_dahne_/226889.html?thread=1677385#t1677385
Then: http://sf-drama.livejournal.com/3149621.html?thread=584969525#t584969525
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That entire sf_d dogpile is one of the sickest things I've ever seen. The hypocrisy is palpable. As far as I can tell, the only thing you did wrong was present a well-reasoned argument for why it's not helpful to fly into a rage about small mistakes in nomenclature ..... thus causing everyone else to fly into a rage about a gross misunderstanding of your metaphor.
Once again, I don't know you, so there's not much heft behind my comment here, but please don't let these rude, self-entitled, delusional creeps bother you any more than they already have. No one can say what they would have done in your situation. You don't owe anyone an explanation, because you didn't do anything wrong.
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There is a lot I'd like to say, but I don't want to make things worse, so I'm just going to say this: fuck the haters and live your life how you want. Don't feel like you have to hide because of them, and please, don't harm yourself any more because of them- they're not worth the space they're taking up.
I wish you the best. :)
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