I've been in a similar position before. My advice is something you already know but don't seem to be capable of doing...is to let them go. Move on and meet new people. Belonging to a circle of friends is intoxicating, I know. It's wonderful and beautiful and when it comes crashing down without your notice, it's emotionally devastating. Friends come and go- that's the way world works. Some people manage to have lifelong friends (and really, they're very lucky), some don't
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It means a lot to have an outside view, too. I've been up and down about this whole mess for months, so yeah-- this is my way of trying to reason it out and drain it.
(Although, this side of the country isn't any better when it comes to jobs)
And it's not the same situation, but I know what you mean about friends. There are so many people I've become severed from and I no longer have a support network, so it gets lonely. I just want to move someplace that has a real job so I can have a real life.
Thanks, dear. Yeah-- I know it's not going to be the ideal wonderland when I move back east, but there's more there than in Utah-- and I've been asked about when I show my resume, so... *shrugs* There's half a hope at least.
And just think of all my awesome friends on the east coast!
It's easy to say that, but it's harder than anything in the world to try and believe that.
You know what I've found helps me? If I repeat things enough times, I actually start to believe it. It's not fast, it can take months if not years, but eventually paying lip service many times ends up becoming truth. Again, that's me, but it's an idea.
I want to let go... but I hate giving up on anything that means anything to me--and that includes friendship.Oh, Lazz, I so hear you on that one. And it does bother you not knowing what you did to cause offense. But you know what? Sometimes it wasn't something you did to cause offense, but something else in the other person's life, or their own sense of guilt/unworthiness/whatever have you that brings the friendship to a close
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Thanks~
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It means a lot to have an outside view, too. I've been up and down about this whole mess for months, so yeah-- this is my way of trying to reason it out and drain it.
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(Although, this side of the country isn't any better when it comes to jobs)
And it's not the same situation, but I know what you mean about friends. There are so many people I've become severed from and I no longer have a support network, so it gets lonely. I just want to move someplace that has a real job so I can have a real life.
Good luck to you! *hug*
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Thanks, dear. Yeah-- I know it's not going to be the ideal wonderland when I move back east, but there's more there than in Utah-- and I've been asked about when I show my resume, so... *shrugs* There's half a hope at least.
And just think of all my awesome friends on the east coast!
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You know what I've found helps me? If I repeat things enough times, I actually start to believe it. It's not fast, it can take months if not years, but eventually paying lip service many times ends up becoming truth. Again, that's me, but it's an idea.
I want to let go... but I hate giving up on anything that means anything to me--and that includes friendship.Oh, Lazz, I so hear you on that one. And it does bother you not knowing what you did to cause offense. But you know what? Sometimes it wasn't something you did to cause offense, but something else in the other person's life, or their own sense of guilt/unworthiness/whatever have you that brings the friendship to a close ( ... )
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I adore your good, common-sense way of looking at all this. ^_^
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