some thinky thoughts about sexuality

[lassarina]

I am prefacing this with the following: I like Lady Gaga's music. I find her fashion frequently incomprehensible and bizarre in a way I do not get and that doesn't appeal to my aesthetic sense, but that's neither here nor there.

But I read this post, From the "You're Not Helping" Files, by yuki_onna today, about some choice things that Lady Gaga said in

Comments

[sgreenwell]

Uh, sorry, but I wouldn't really view you as bisexual either if you haven't acted on it at this point. If you were younger, I think your argument about being bisexual might have more credence, but you're in your mid 20s and you haven't dated a woman, no? If I proclaimed that I loved blondes, but had dated nothing but brunettes, then someone would come along and call me out on that as well. There has to be some intent and some action.

I don't doubt that you do find women attractive, but I don't think this is that irregular either. I've had past girlfriends who are completely straight admit to girl crushes on people, and even pleasuring themselves to the idea of that. However, I think it just illustrates how female sexuality is usually (not always) more fluid than male sexuality. (Most guys find the idea of guy-guy sex revolting. It doesn't mean they're homophobes, it's just something instinctive.)

[lassarina]

♥ My Ben is smartness.

[arex]

Hey screw you, Ben! I will readily admit when a dude is hot.

It just so happens that all these dudes are fictional (except Johnny Depp).

[lassarina]

Yes. This. Exactly. It might very well be that this is how it works for her, but for the rest of us? Not so much, necessarily.

[dharma_slut]

Yes, that's true for many women.

here, have some drag kings.

[a_leprechaun]

She can pretend so good. Mmhm. ♥

[raakone]

Nice post. But what's a "Kyriarchy"?

But another problem....is people wanting to pigeonhole everyone else. Sadly, it seems, even among people who are traditionally "marginilized"....among them they do their own marginilization.

Most importantly, you are who you are....pigeonholers be damned.

[lassarina]

Kyriarchy - a collection of oppressive power structures. Includes the social structures designed to keep straight, white, cisgendered, currently able-bodied, economically privileged, Christian men in power over anyone who does not fit any of those groups. (The fewer of those groups one belongs to, the worse life gets.) Part of feminism as I address it includes trying to educate about, and tear down, those social structures that oppress in general, not just the ones that oppress me in particular. For example, I'm a cisgendered, white, currently able-bodied, economically privileged person who can pass as straight if necessary, so I get an awful lot of privilege. However, I'm also a woman, I don't always pass for straight (see also: bi), and I have chosen a religious path that doesn't fit the mainstream narrative.

For more on kyriarchy and feminism, I recommend Shakesville, particularly the Feminism 101 section.