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[lapinguina]

I wrote part of this in the last post but I wanted to expand on it and also have a separate post to discuss the problem, because on thinking about it, it's the single biggest problem in my relationship right now and also a huge obstacle to us living together, getting married, etc. (Namely that neither of us really wants to live together until we

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[wavescrashdown]

The problem is that nobody sleeps like in the movies, where you lie down on your back with your arms folded on your chest and wake up in exactly the same position ten hours later.I do, actually. But Zach doesn't, so my calm sleeping powers are useless

[lapinguina]

I think it might be a good idea to try a sleep study, although I don't really know what's involved. For me, at least, because I sleep terribly anyway even when I'm alone (I don't know what crazy person ever recommended 8 hours - I have trouble getting up after 10 hours). I don't know what a CPAP machine is but if it's helping your MIL, awesome. I'll have to do some googling...

[swagmonkey]

I'm the type to hold my sweetie all night (although, in recent 90+ degree weather with no air conditioning, we've grudgingly kept to our own sides of the bed overnight.) Aside from heat in the middle of the summer, we actually prefer sleeping as a couple to separately. A lot of people have told me it just takes some time to get used to a new person sleeping in the same bed. So it might gradually get better as you get used to each other, if you do it on a regular basis...but I don't think I'd want to count on that if it's such an issue now

[lapinguina]

I'm not sure there's ever been a time when we could both fit in a twin bed lying down... hahaha.

I usually do the roll over and go back to sleep thing, but that's an interruption to sleep - it takes a while, plus every interruption means less rest because the sleep cycles aren't normal or something.

[lapinguina]

Queen beds... we can't afford king beds, and even if we could they don't fit in either of our rooms. Maybe someday though! :)

[tckma]

Well, I sleep like the dead, so having someone else there isn't a problem until I wake up in the morning curled in an uncomfortable ball, unable to extract myself from a wife at my side, a dog at the other, and another dog at my feet. Then I wonder how I managed to sleep. I am tired all the time even though I feel I've gotten a full night's sleep.

According to Bron, I thrash around a lot in my sleep and it wakes her up. I think she is an unusually light sleeper though. If I do move around a lot, it probably doesn't help. In the winter she is a blanket thief and I wake up cold, but apparently I steal the blankets also.

I tend to go to sleep lying on my side, and I wake up in any number of positions.

I don't know a solution to this problem. It affects me, but I sleep so deeply that I am unaware of it while it's happening.

[chilichica]

Some couples are cuddle sleepers and some definitely aren't.

I am definitely 100% a cuddle sleeper. I don't mind sleeping in a twin bed with my SO. I guess I'm a pretty deep/easy-going sleeper. So moving around really doesn't bother me that much. If it does wake me, I can usually fall right back asleep. I also don't think I move around that that much in my sleep either. I've definitely fallen asleep spooning, and woken up more or less the same way.

However, I had an ex who HATED cuddling. He had a king size bed and was thinking about buying a California king. That might be what you would need if you're determined to sleep in the same bed. He also had a million bazillion pillows on his bed, so there definitely would not have been the issue of stealing pillows.

I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with a couple deciding sleeping in the same bed doesn't work for them. As long as the relationship works, why conform to what everyone else is doing if something else makes the both of you happy?