Have to say I agree - you never will be 100% ready. You can have the baby in an apartment. For the first year they won't take up a ton of room anyhow... and I know you won't be the type of parents to by into the "I need a shit ton of CRAP to prove I'm a good parent". The main priority - figure out the medical stuff. Everything will fall into place as needed.
This. Chrono and I were fooling around for a decade, not trying to prevent conception (but not doing a damned thing to help it along, either). We figured one of us had bad plumbing, somewhere, and the month after I started looking into what we'd need to do to adopt, I missed my period. My userpic is the result of the casual conception. Remember, I said a decade. I was 35 when he popped out, and I lost 50 pounds from the visit to my GP to confirm the stick test to checking into the hospital for delivery. Mind, I didn't have insulin issues, either... For the first six months, G slept in our room. After that, he was moved into his own room. I do recommend that somebody stays home in that first year, because the fucktastic sleep non-schedules newborns have.
Also, as a child of parents who did the night/day work schedule thing: It works out really well with young children, but I feel like my dad (who still works nights to this day) missed out on a whole lot of my life because he had to be at work, or sleeping for work, and I kind of think he feels like that sometimes. Just food for thought.
A child can derail your preconceptions of preparedness, so I just say it's best to be settled and financially well-off before trying, and leave it at that. Too much planning never works *chuckles*, and I've witnessed plenty of that. XD That, and we all know pregnancy can occur after the first try, or after the first hundred attempts. o_o;
Having a child still terrifies me to this day, primarily because you now become 100% responsible for the development of a brand new human being. It's a scary job, but I think you two would make good parents. :)
And extra awesome points to your mother offering to help if the time happens to arrive.
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If you wait for the "right time" to have a child, it will never happen.
We waited until we were 32, then started having problems, went through all sorts of stuff, and finally, at 35, we're having our first.
Seriously. Get as prepared as you can, then do it.
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Remember, I said a decade. I was 35 when he popped out, and I lost 50 pounds from the visit to my GP to confirm the stick test to checking into the hospital for delivery. Mind, I didn't have insulin issues, either...
For the first six months, G slept in our room. After that, he was moved into his own room. I do recommend that somebody stays home in that first year, because the fucktastic sleep non-schedules newborns have.
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Oh, religion, I figure you guys will start doing that in two months or so as well.
Can I be the one to say, "Whoah."?
I mean, I don't want to be a buzzkill, but can we not put the cart in front of the horse for now?
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Also, as a child of parents who did the night/day work schedule thing:
It works out really well with young children, but I feel like my dad (who still works nights to this day) missed out on a whole lot of my life because he had to be at work, or sleeping for work, and I kind of think he feels like that sometimes. Just food for thought.
Eee! :D
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Having a child still terrifies me to this day, primarily because you now become 100% responsible for the development of a brand new human being. It's a scary job, but I think you two would make good parents. :)
And extra awesome points to your mother offering to help if the time happens to arrive.
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