Save me from having a full fledged panic attack

[ladydemando]

Okay, so my grandpa came home from the doctors today to check on his cancer. They wanted him on Chemo like right this second, but he was all ah no. So they gave him something to take for a few months. They want him on chemo no later then June though. This of course, freaks me out. My living situation isn't like that of others. I live with my two

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[lovemeeko]

Caregivers and nursing homes are available for a purpose, not to rush the elderly to their graves. My grandmother used to live in a nursing home in Costa Mesa. It was really nice, like a luxury apartment building.

Having a nurse come by your house to bathe and check on your elders is not the end of the world, it happens everyday.

Freaking out is not a solution. Just make up your minds on the best plan so when the time comes, you don't have to think about it. If insurance will pay for home care, get that then. Better then moving~

[ladydemando]

if it comes down to it and I have to move, I'll have to move. Unfortunately we don't have a 'set plan' we are still talking about all our options. We want to wait until my grandma gets back from her mini vacation on Saturday, because this is something we all need to agree too etc

[a_siren]

I'm with Lynleigh, My Grandparents in England lived for many years in their own home (Grandma had some dementia {like Alzheimers}, and Grandad had serious heart and lung issues.) They lived for many years taking care of themselves for a large part with the care of a nurse who would stop by to make sure they had their meds, and things were tidy, and even prepare meals. They didn't even have the benefit of a live-in grand-daughter to help them too.

I think once you agree on a plan, you'll feel better. But Lyn is right, don't discount a caregiver... it's not like you have to hire someone off the street you can take your time and interview as many as you may need to until you find a good fit. With everyone looking for jobs now a days, I'll bet you'll have your pick!

[ladydemando]

I know. I'm just freaking out because to me this feels like the beginning of the end, and I don't want it to be. You know how close I am to my grandparents, my grandma especially. I'm not ready to give them up.

Of course I can be over reacting and they can give a big middle finger to their health issues and live a long time. This is what I'm obviously hoping for, but when all is said and done, under all the other fears I have of 'what will I do without them?' is 'I dont want to be alone' I'm scared of being alone. I know I'll have my friends and all, but at the same time I'll be alone...and I don't want to be

[phavorianne]

What terrible news! I'm so sorry to hear it. I'm sure there's something you can work out, but even so, I understand that it's going to be emotionally straining for you. I hope for the best for you all!

[onyxmoon]

*HUGS*

[karmaisspecial]

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through an extremely stressful situation right now--and even that's an understatement. =(

I also would not discount a caregiver just yet. My grandfather had a stroke a few years back and since has had a lot of trouble, mentally and physically, and my dad and aunts had all already moved out and had families--in another country too, no less, since my grandpa's in Greece still. but my grandpa's developed a good relationship with his nurse since. I think with the right person it could work out really well. Generally, people in that profession are very nice and caring. I think your concern and general nervousness about the whole idea is perfectly understandable though. It's a big decision and a big change to adjust to.

Of course, I hope your grandfather gets better soon and you don't have to worry about it at all. Wish you all the best. <3