Hi y'all,
Just wanted to start a little healthy discussion/debate about Tony's sexuality. Do you think he is Tim-sexual, bi-sexual, homosexual, pan-sexual etc? How do you factor his on-screen relations in regards to his sexuality, particularly Jeanne Benoit?
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I think his excessive womanizing (that sounds harsh, I don't mean it badly) is probably due to his confusion but I do think he truly was attracted to Jeanne and did come to love her. He was hesitant because he was worried about hurting her feelings and that's exactly why I think Tim would always have to make the first move (even if Tony has engineered it accidentally on purpose) because Tony would be too scared to risk their relationship on what might be a one time thing for him.
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Tony scared is a new concept for me but I find it intriguing, especially the one time thing. Hmmm, curiouser and curiouser. Thanks for sharing your thoughts x
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With Tim, he's probably been fighting his attraction since Day 1. He probably tells himself that it's inappropriate due to the fact that they work together, or he tells himself that he couldn't possibly be attracted to Probie/McGeek/whatever he calls him, or he tells himself that duh, Timmy is a GUY, and Tony doesn't do guys (yeah right.)
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I don't think Tim is his usual type, he's not tanned or muscular but he smells right and he feels right, not that he's ever really got to feel him and he repeatedly tells himself that he doesn't want to feel Tim like that anyway.
Thanks so much for taking the time to write out your thoughts. It's interesting to read and also helps me understand my own. Thanks again :)
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But seriously, I think that Tony is bisexual, while leaning heavily to the hetero side. It's what he's comfortable with, he knows how to handle women. We're pretty uncomplicated for him so long as we don't expect too much out of him.
When it comes to Jeanne, I'm always hesitant to make any kind of pronouncement about Tony's personality/sexuality. Nothing about the relationship was real, except his love, which came about under forced circumstances. (Huh, maybe I could argue that he bonded with Jeanne out of necessity? Like Stockholm's except not as horrifying.) So anything that came out under Jeanne's influence should always be taken with a grain of salt, I think.
It's also possible that part of his reluctance with Jeanne came from his love/attraction/loyalty to Tim. If he had a little voice in the back of his head saying You're hurting Tim, you're hurting Tim, every time he bent down for a hug or a kiss, it would make sense that he was dragging his feet on prostituting himself to Jeanne. (Have I ( ... )
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Tony is so obviously Tim-sexual, I have difficulty thinking of him with anybody else. I find it interesting to see how everybody who comments thinks he is bi-sexual, even more straight than gay. Still, I can't see it.
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Its hard for me to see Tony as purely gay, because Tim is the only man that he reacts so strongly to. (Unless we want to get into Gibbs/DiNozzo, which I don't.) He doesn't flirt with any other men, unless it links back to Tim somehow (as we saw with McCaden.) The usual Tonytage is something like "GIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSTimmy! look at me Timmy look at me look at me look at me!GIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSGIRLSTimmyyyyy, you're not looking at me! Look at me look at me look at me," especially in the beginning. He does have a genuine interest in women, which we have to take into account, though I would definitely agree that it's become little more than a smokescreen these days.
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Love it :D
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As for whether he identifies as gay or straight, I honestly don't think he's ever sat down and put a name to things. Labels have worked for him for most of his life so he's not about to reject them as too confining so he doesn't bother fiddling with them.
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Tony shouldn't have to put a label on his sexuality, in real life I don't think anybody should have to. Hmm, thanks for your thoughts :)
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