Woe is the Mystery That is Me

[kingtommy]

I'm kind of flabberghasted. Every now and then, but freqently enough to drive me crazy, I get asked why I am so nice and I never, ever know how to respond to that. I don't know. Am I that nice? Am I too nice? What kind of answer are people looking for? What do people want to hear? Is that the same question? No matter how I answer, I never feel it's

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[skywalker_child]

I think "Why are you so nice?" is a way of people complimenting you when they don't know how to say "Thanks, I really appreciate that."

And I don't think we'll ever know THE reason we are the way we are, and I don't think there is just one reason. Every experience we have shapes what we become, and to pin one down as THE moment negates all the other moments before and after. Those "before" moments affected THE moment, and the "after" moments reflect back on it as well...and everything that came before.

To go back, then, I don't think people are looking for "The History of King Tommy, In Brief" when they ask this question. Rather, what they want to know is, maybe "How can I be this giving, too?"

/monologue

The Niceties of My Niceness

[kingtommy]

Thank you. That was very insightful. I think I've now come to the realization that I honestly don't think I'm "so nice." I feel I am generally appropriately nice, especially since I don't think I'm generally trying.

[magentacilantro]

Skywalker Child said it all.

[skywalker_child]

Wow. I wish more people just deferred to me like that. ;)