Woe is the Mystery That is Me
I'm kind of flabberghasted. Every now and then, but freqently enough to drive me crazy, I get asked why I am so nice and I never, ever know how to respond to that. I don't know. Am I that nice? Am I too nice? What kind of answer are people looking for? What do people want to hear? Is that the same question? No matter how I answer, I never feel it's quite adequate. For one thing, I'm just generally not comfortable talking about myself. At least, not like this.
I think I've come up with all sorts of reasons why I am who I am and why I do whatever it is I do that defines me as being so nice, but I don't know what's the biggest reason or the best reason. The best I usually say is that I'm just being me and that I'm not really trying, but is that what people want to hear or are they looking for more depth? Should I be less nice? I wonder in my attempts to feel that I've adequately answered the question if I say too much.
Is it even a compliment to be asked that or do people think that I'm being duplicitous or am trying to go out of my way to be liked? Is it something else that I haven't thought of?
Bah, talking about this is frustrating. Thinking about it has been, too, of course, which is why I'm posting on here.
Will anyone who reads this please respond. I've partially written this for two people who have called me out on not posting enough. Thank you.
I think I've come up with all sorts of reasons why I am who I am and why I do whatever it is I do that defines me as being so nice, but I don't know what's the biggest reason or the best reason. The best I usually say is that I'm just being me and that I'm not really trying, but is that what people want to hear or are they looking for more depth? Should I be less nice? I wonder in my attempts to feel that I've adequately answered the question if I say too much.
Is it even a compliment to be asked that or do people think that I'm being duplicitous or am trying to go out of my way to be liked? Is it something else that I haven't thought of?
Bah, talking about this is frustrating. Thinking about it has been, too, of course, which is why I'm posting on here.
Will anyone who reads this please respond. I've partially written this for two people who have called me out on not posting enough. Thank you.