Public service message: "nice" does not mean "non-assertive"

[kimberkit]

Talking to addienfaemne today, I bitched about the argument I often hear from certain of my male friends: "nice guys finish last." Here's what Jessica and I both agree on: that statement just isn't true. Sorry to cut the pity-party short. What is true is that non-assertive guys finish last. Just like non-assertive people in general finish last - take my word

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[dominika_kretek]

The other day I was stand-reading this book about how to be assertive and deal with difficult and awful people without becoming a jerk yourself. It was pretty awesome, because it showed that you don't always have to fight fire with fire in those cases. There are all kinds of ways you can push back on people without losing your soul, and all kinds of ways you can grant concessions without losing your self. But it's wicked hard to learn those things, for some reason.