At yesterday's cuddle party, the clarity of the opening welcome circle hit me again. A boundaries workshop, it made me feel completely aware again of where mine were, and of feeling free to cuddle OR NOT with whoever I wanted to ( Read more... )

Ups and downs with M lately make me think a lot about the nature of partnership, and why it works. What's the reasoning behind the sense of steadiness in M? I think it's mostly a balancing act of detachment. And I mean, detachment from yourself as well as from the other person. Depression is hard, because your world narrows to your immediate misery ( Read more... )

A thought: living with your beloved for a while is like acquiring a new sense that you didn't know you had -- like suddenly acquiring a sense of smell, when you hadn't had one before. The first few times you come into contact with this startling new thing in your life, you feel the urge to do everything a lot: run around, do lots of activities, ( Read more... )

Talking to addienfaemne today, I bitched about the argument I often hear from certain of my male friends: "nice guys finish last." Here's what Jessica and I both agree on: that statement just isn't true. Sorry to cut the pity-party short. What is true is that non-assertive guys finish last. Just like non-assertive people in general finish last - take my word ( Read more... )

In a conversation last week, talking with a friend, he mentioned that he thought that people were attracted to instability and drama. I thought about that, and -- he's right, there is that charm to the instable person. There's something to the energy of a person who honestly reveals their weaknesses; and perhaps there's some ego-flattering going on ( Read more... )

"Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." - Matt Groening

Wanted: cute nerdy girl or boy for long walks on the beach. Good hugs a must. Flowers a plus. Musicians encouraged. Druggies, smokers, eunichs and assholes need not apply. Inquire within. Ask for Kim.