I don't like "gave away" either, because it implies it was something I gave, instead of something I added to myself...
I like shed a little more, I never thought of it that way.
I don't really like the concept of virginity, tho. I mean, were all the times I had intimate encounters with friends not real b/c I didn't "lose" my virginity? I don't speak of them often cause underage fooling around is taboo in the world I grew up in, and especially with other girls, although I have talked about it with friends and I am certainly not ashamed of it anymore!
Yeah, I wanted to write something about gaining, but I couldn't figure out how to word it satisfactorily so I deleted what I had.
But I agree; I feel very much like it's an addition instead of a subtraction. Also, I agree with the 'where do you draw the line' conundrum. What constitutes as 'sex'? That's why I wrote 'a certain set of physical acts' so that it would be more inclusive.
Lol, I was going to write 'give it up' as an alternative, but then it looked so gangsta (for lack of a better descriptor) "Give It Up! Yo!" that it made me laugh and I just couldn't add it.
'Give away' sounds, to me, like you're giving a gift to someone, which can be a nice way of looking at it... but it doesn't work for everyone.
but yeah, I know exactly where mine went, too, and I don't want it back. Not that I was unhappy with it; I've just moved on and feel no need to revert back to that state.
And hey, I planned my 'event', too! Just not for the same date you planned yours ;) Always with the planning...
Heh, yeah, me too. Fell in love at first sight when I was 14 or 15 (it was summerish, I'm not sure if it was before or after my birthday), cheerfully stalked him until he decided that I was old enough that it wasn't creepy any more four years later. [grin] Who says I can't carry a torch? (In retrospect, that level of determination and fixation on a person could well have been disturbing rather than flattering.)
I like "shed". [grin] But I agree that the real feeling that goes along with it is one of addition rather than subtraction.
I think 'lost' was an appropriate term for mine- because while it was totally awesome (woo!), it really represented my naivete otherwise and losing my virginity was the catalyst for the rest of my life becoming a lot more grown up, I think.
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I like shed a little more, I never thought of it that way.
I don't really like the concept of virginity, tho. I mean, were all the times I had intimate encounters with friends not real b/c I didn't "lose" my virginity? I don't speak of them often cause underage fooling around is taboo in the world I grew up in, and especially with other girls, although I have talked about it with friends and I am certainly not ashamed of it anymore!
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But I agree; I feel very much like it's an addition instead of a subtraction. Also, I agree with the 'where do you draw the line' conundrum. What constitutes as 'sex'? That's why I wrote 'a certain set of physical acts' so that it would be more inclusive.
No shame here, either!
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'Give away' sounds, to me, like you're giving a gift to someone, which can be a nice way of looking at it... but it doesn't work for everyone.
but yeah, I know exactly where mine went, too, and I don't want it back. Not that I was unhappy with it; I've just moved on and feel no need to revert back to that state.
And hey, I planned my 'event', too! Just not for the same date you planned yours ;) Always with the planning...
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I like "shed". [grin] But I agree that the real feeling that goes along with it is one of addition rather than subtraction.
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"divested myself of" my virginity.
yeehaw.
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Overall, still very positive.
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