Forks and Humans

[kenshusei]

Deep breaths, happy thoughts. It's been a kind of stressful day. Hopefully a bit of jazz and some library writing will help level me out a bit

Comments

[kenshusei]

I have no idea how it happened, but I only use that word when forging euphemisms for genitals.

I blame accidental exposure to some romance novel in the long forgotten past...

Though, freakishly, I just remembered exactly where I got that turn of phrase from, now that I mention it. I got it from Dave Eddings, who isn't a romance author unless you're talking romance in the classic sense.

[kittengrin]

You got that use of the word salient from the same place I did :p

[kenshusei]

I'm sure you've picked out more than one Eddings-ism in the way I write.

"Defenestrate" is another one. As are my common references to "points".

[fatfred]

Brings new meaning to the phrase: Fork you.

[kenshusei]

I think I'm just going to stuff a bunch of plastic forks in my bag. And when they get going for too long, I'll just grab one and start jabbing myself with it until they put two and two together.

[fatfred]

That may only work if they read your LJ...

[madshutterbug]

Either that, or hand one of them over to them and say (either one of these):
Here's your fork.
Here's your sign.

[jehannamama]

Oh this was good...
And you did stop her in her tracks. People should do that for their friends more often. All that venom just gets more virulent spewing out like that.

[vradin]

Good read.

Sorry I missed your AIM, drop me another when you're on again.

[penandinked]

This kinda brings to mind something from "Buddhism Plain and Simple." The author made a point about how, when talking to someone, what you're hearing is not so much what is being said about the other person, but what the speaker is saying about themselves. It's something I've come to terms with recently: Venting vs. bitching. Venting is ok and cathartic, bitching is just annoying. The high road would be to say: Don't talk shit about someone unless you're willing to say it to their faces. Of course, that's like me saying "ooh! I'll throw the first stone, bitches! Gimme!"

[kenshusei]

I think the "if you wouldn't say it to their face" is a good thing to aspire towards, so long as you realize that it is A) very difficult and, given the nature of most people, will be B) costly.

However, if freedom's worth it...

[drgnsyr]

It also means you tend to realize just how nasty you're willing to be to someone's face. Not saying anything behind someone's back that I wouldn't say to their face has been my policy for years (though recently I've caught myself not holding to it as well as the friends we've been migrating towards tend to use bitching about this person or that as a primary topic of conversation fodder - yay LARP). However, it means that I've occassionally said some less than pretty things to people with the justification that I'd already complained about it to other people and I "never say something behind someone's back that I wouldn't say to their face." So it can be a double edged sword.