You can say it one more time, what you don't like

[kdavoli]

Friends:

I need some help.

I need suggestions for what sucks about me how to improve myself. Tell me what you don't like about me. What you wish I'd change or fix. What items need attention to make me closer to how awesome you think I *should* be. You don't even have to know me very well

Comments

Testing

[anonymous]

See! Anonymity works.

[qiika]

You know I'm not big on a fancy wardrobe, but most of the times I've seen you in the past year, you've been wearing worn-out, hole-y shirts. I imagine that impacts many people's opinion of you, since it's something appearance-based that I notice (usually being oblivious to all but the very obvious).

It comes across as a lack of self-respect, which I know you have and certainly deserve.

Relatedly, I have a bad-ass unicorn t-shirt that would probably fit you. I thought of you when I realized that it's just a little too small for me.

[qiika]

Hmmmm, I can see this.

[anonymous]

Look at extrinsic growth as well as intrinsic growth. If you send all your time fussing over the exact detailing and tuning of your car, but it never leaves the garage, you'll never really fell the full benefit of the effort, never mind be sure that you actually got it right.

Spend some time thinking about what your overall short and long term goals might be, and from there you'll probably get a more clear idea of how you need to direct your growth.

[soong]

How do you feel about your fitness? I'll happily be a zealot in favor of increasing physical fitness. Over the last couple years I've done fun skilly human tricks like rock climbing and dancing and acrobatics and I've gotten better at them and increased my general feeling of well-being. And I clearly still have new heights to reach and more awesome things to achieve.

[blk]

I would like to see you practice asking for more of what you want, more often. (and with this, comes practicing to take a 'no' gracefully, and not let that deter you from asking for other things in the future)

It was surprising to me to have the initial request to see you this weekend come from K, and not from you. I'm happy to make plans with you, but I would have been more comfortable had it come directly from you.

[blk]

I would like to see you practice asking for more of what you want, more often. (and with this, comes practicing to take a 'no' gracefully, and not let that deter you from asking for other things in the future)

Seconded.