Social weirdness

[kazoogrrl]

My neighbors a few blocks away are having some sort of party that involves a competition (I think) as there is cheering and yelling and general mayhem. It may not be a dance party as the sound system has started up

Comments

[davesmusictank]

Sometimes i find onlibe is better. I am a bit socially awkward myself.

[clevermanka]

Please tell me I'm not the only person who thinks "Best Fucking Friends" every time BFF is used.

Well you're not now.

[kazoogrrl]

Glad to share!

ETA: It's said in a sarcastic tone, not best friends who are fucking. Also, when I hear someone say "Namaste" I automatically hear " . . . motherfucker" in my head because of the many creepy, passive aggressive, more-enlightened-than-thou people who have crossed my path.

[clevermanka]

I have this tee shirt:

[kazoogrrl]

Love it!

[hitchcock73]

I wish I had more "hey, we're dropping by with a 6 pack" friends, too, and I always wish I had the kind of neighbors who I could be friends with. I realize I go for long, isolated stretches and that's no good.

[kazoogrrl]

I have no idea how people do that? I wonder if it happens more when it's a long established mix group of friends who have known each other forever and live close together?

[lapinetrose]

I'd like friends to have more impromptu get-togethers, because my pre-planning has been falling apart lately. I'm becoming my likely to do things on the fly.

[kazoogrrl]

I'm always worried I'll be interrupting someone's big house work plans or something. Which is silly.

[examorata]

I think I have a weird reaction when any grown adult uses the term "best friend" because I feel like I outgrew the concept a long time ago. Like, there is no way that one person can just be your all-and-everything. There are people I've known the longest, people I became closest to recently who have a different sort of bond...like you say, it's cool to know people who have known you across a number of stages of life.

In theory I like the casual-hanging-out, but yeah, I feel like that disappeared when we all left college and weren't as geographically close to each other AND started having other responsibilities.

[kazoogrrl]

I definitely have these overlapping circles of people who have known me for a long time and people I tend to hang out with a lot because we're in the same time/space/interest, and it's good to have both sorts of friends. Plus the "newer" friends are now moving into long term friends, so the history is building up.

I think I like the idea of someone who, through thick and thin, has your back.

[examorata]

Definitely! I think it's the singular hierarchical nature of "best friend" that bugs me. When I was a kid, I had a "best friend" and I took that very seriously - no one else was as important to me! (That was an early lesson for me to learn, about caring too much and how long is it worth it to carry all the weight and do all the work of the friendship before you just figure out it's time to move on.) So I dislike the inherently singular nature. Maybe I'm too much a literalist, and I should just embrace the idea of a bunch of "best friends," because I'd probably have like at least four or so. =)

[kazoogrrl]

Best posse