Going to keep this purposefully vague, but no one reads Livejournal anymore, and this is friendslocked so I might as well just write it for myself
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I'm sorry your friend did this to you but congratulations for standing up for yourself. Does this person have any history of manipulative or controlling behavior?
I don't feel like I should be congratulated, it all feels so bad and unfortunate. And that's what made it so jarring - he's never been manipulative or controlling. He's always been such an amazing, supportive friend. It's almost like someone flipped a switch in his brain and he became another person entirely. This behavior isn't like him at all.
Part of me hopes he'll calm down and talk to us again, but part of me is hurt and frightened to the point where now I'm afraid of what he might say.
I'm guessing you can't say exactly what he was accusing you of lying about? Wondering if that might explain anything.
Could there be anyone in his life now trying to isolate him or poison his friendships with others, perhaps telling him that you and his other friends are lying? Any new sources of stress? Or even a possible medical change or change in medication?
I'm guessing he was resistant to being asked if anything changed or why he was acting oddly/accusing people of lying.
I don't want to get into too much detail, but he asked if I had watched a video he was a part of, I said I had months before, and he didn't believe me. I have no idea why he didn't believe me.
And to answer your second question, I don't know. I have no idea. I can't imagine why anyone would try to isolate him from us two specifically. There was a scary medical thing that happened to someone close to him - I wonder if that upset/scared him, but I still can't figure out why that would cause him to turn on *us*.
I don't know much (anything, really) about his relationship. He seems happy, so I'm happy for him. I don't think that has anything to do with this blowup, but I'm not 100% sure because...logically it wouldn't make sense but none of this is logical.
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I'm sorry your friend did this to you but congratulations for standing up for yourself. Does this person have any history of manipulative or controlling behavior?
I hope things get better.
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Part of me hopes he'll calm down and talk to us again, but part of me is hurt and frightened to the point where now I'm afraid of what he might say.
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Could there be anyone in his life now trying to isolate him or poison his friendships with others, perhaps telling him that you and his other friends are lying? Any new sources of stress? Or even a possible medical change or change in medication?
I'm guessing he was resistant to being asked if anything changed or why he was acting oddly/accusing people of lying.
Do you know how his relationship is going?
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And to answer your second question, I don't know. I have no idea. I can't imagine why anyone would try to isolate him from us two specifically. There was a scary medical thing that happened to someone close to him - I wonder if that upset/scared him, but I still can't figure out why that would cause him to turn on *us*.
I don't know much (anything, really) about his relationship. He seems happy, so I'm happy for him. I don't think that has anything to do with this blowup, but I'm not 100% sure because...logically it wouldn't make sense but none of this is logical.
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