Comments | katekat1010: so it's not anxiety, it's learning to overcome distress intolerance

katekat1010

so it's not anxiety, it's learning to overcome distress intolerance

Nov 21, 2015 23:33

One of my good friends had approximately a four-hour anxiety ... it's not quite correct to say attack, maybe bout? a spike? an episode? regardless, it was four hours of it that we spent together. She was having an extremely difficult day and came over as one of her management strategies (sometimes being alone makes for even more difficult spikes ( Read more... )

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elizabuffy November 22 2015, 08:51:38 UTC

It sounds like you're doing a good job. And as long as the site (which I have not looked at) helps you, it's worthwhile. I know having a mental illness is hard, but it's equally hard on their loved ones. So I'm glad you're reading about it.

You are a wonderful friend and it's so special that you were able to be their for her when she really needed it. That's as important as knowing the "right" things to do.

~e!

katekat1010 November 23 2015, 02:49:23 UTC

Thanks BB! I'm trying, and yeah, I figured if the site is helpful for me it can't be all bad! and it's not like it's advice is to do anything painful - more just to try and be aware of triggers and methods to help identify them and then channel the energy that goes into thinking about them.

And I'm glad I could be there for her too! I like feeling like I can help even a little bit.

OTOH, something that she brought up that makes me worry is that she's feeling like she's got me as her one friend she can talk to about stuff, because she feels like i'm the only one who is really there for her. and I worry about that. And weirdly, I wonder if maybe sometimes I'm too good? Because she was ok before we were this close - she had multiple friendships with lots of people - and i don't want to make her codependant