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Re: More on My ConfessionkateamdahlOctober 27 2008, 19:37:16 UTC
Hi Night,
I'm really glad to hear that you'll have a new blog before long!
Your problem sounds very painful to work through. :( I hope your marriage is a happy one - or if it isn't that you can find a way to revitalize it, or support to let it go. I know it's a lot easier to point out places where our lives are out of balance than to come up with good solutions, but I hope you find yours soon!
^^^\ Kate /^^^
PS - Thanks so much for filling in more about your situation! I admit to having been painfully curious. :)
As for myself, I found my SL partner quite by accident- we were both working in a club (I had, for over a year, been masquerading as a female- and a darned cute one at that) that went through a Night of Drama and we found ourselves talking afterwards. As our convo went into the night, I gathered my nerves and finally went on Vox to tell her I really *wasn't* a girl and that I hoped it didn't freak her out too badly. It didn't, and after a few weeks of talking we both came to realize there was *something* between us, although we couldn't quite put our virtual fingers on it
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Thanks for your thoughtful comment, hon. It's sad to hear that your First Life and your Second Life are partly at odds.
You know, there seems to be conflicting research, but it's worth considering whether it's in children's best interests to stay in a marriage "for them." Of course, parents staying together makes for more stability, at least in a way, but on the other hand, the couple aren't making each other happy and are modeling both unhappy lives and an unhappy marriage for their kids.
I'm certainly *not* qualified to offer advice on the matter, and you should know I'm always biased in favor of romantic love, so maybe just disregard all that. :)
Anyway, I was glad to read your comment and to learn about how your Second Life and your First Life have been going.
I am not sure which option he would have taken...but I busted him myself
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March 1 2009, 03:56:28 UTC
My boyfriend of 13 years joined SL 3 years ago, after he quit his "real" job. He saw "business" opportunity in this 3-D world...as he had said. I gave him my blessing..."Go ahead and start what you believe...I will be behind you and stand by you". After all, isn't that what supportive partners do? I used up my "emergency" savings to support him to achieve his dreams. Just two weeks ago, I found out that he actually cheated on me in "real" life with one of the avatars he met back in October. Once caught, he admiited that they'd spoken on the phone back in Nov and Dec and decided to meet up in January. The story gets worse as I went through his phone bills...he had been having many affairs with other avatars in last 2 1/2 years. (On the side note: he hasn't admitted to this yet...I guess, he thinks what I don't know won't hurt me). I spoke with one of the avatars in the "real" life (who by the way was pissed at him for hooking up with the other avatar in the real life as well), she sent me streams of IM messages and told me all the "
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I'm really glad to hear that you'll have a new blog before long!
Your problem sounds very painful to work through. :( I hope your marriage is a happy one - or if it isn't that you can find a way to revitalize it, or support to let it go. I know it's a lot easier to point out places where our lives are out of balance than to come up with good solutions, but I hope you find yours soon!
^^^\ Kate /^^^
PS - Thanks so much for filling in more about your situation! I admit to having been painfully curious. :)
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You know, there seems to be conflicting research, but it's worth considering whether it's in children's best interests to stay in a marriage "for them." Of course, parents staying together makes for more stability, at least in a way, but on the other hand, the couple aren't making each other happy and are modeling both unhappy lives and an unhappy marriage for their kids.
I'm certainly *not* qualified to offer advice on the matter, and you should know I'm always biased in favor of romantic love, so maybe just disregard all that. :)
Anyway, I was glad to read your comment and to learn about how your Second Life and your First Life have been going.
^^^\ Kate /^^^
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