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[katariel109]

I'm still in shock, I can't believe that my Uncle David would do this to his family and friends. I learned yesterday that my Uncle David was dead. He shot himself. it hurts just thinking about it. I know that there must have been something i could have done to save him. If only i had talked to him more often or gone out to california maybe he

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[analliecat]

Oh Kat, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I have no idea how painful that must be for you. But Kat, remember, one of the hardest things about suicide is the realization that there really was nothing you could do. Kat, suicide stems from mental illness, and you going out there may have given him temporary relief, but in the long run, there really wasn't anything that you could do. Its in God's hands now, as uncomforting as that is. I'm sure there are people who were far closer to him than you were who have to come to a similar realization, but Kat, just remember we all care about you, and if you need to talk, feel free to call, and that being numb and confused is okay.

Peace

[speedlaura]

I am so sorry sweetheart. I wish I were there to give you a hug.
Allie is 100% correct. No one can cure somebody's mental illness. They can give temporary relief but no one can prevent someone from feeling hopeless.
If you want to talk IM me or if you need to hear a friendly voice I'd be more than happy to give you a call...I promise it won't be any trouble.

[fairydust007]

aw kat i'm so sorry, but please , don't blame yourself. that 1st chick who posted is 110 % correct. you alone couldn't have cured what was going on in his life and his mind.when someone contemplates or actually goes thru with suicide, theres nothing that someone in their family alone could've done. it's ok to feel sad, confused, angry, etc. i honesty don't believe the whole "omg!if you commit suicide god is sending you to hell." such bull shit.i know you'll see your uncle again in the afterlife, but for now cherish the happy memories you have of him.

[matthewstengel]

I disagree, respectfully that suicide is derived from mental illness. Usually suicide is a response to great pain, physically or (sometimes) mentally. While it's a terrible thing for family and friends, it might have put himself out of a great deal of pain.

As far as conforming to the most relevant philosophy of utilitarianism, I actually wrote an essay explaining how suicide could not possibly fit into utiliarianism, seeing as how pleasure cannot be experienced after death in athiest belief (nothing can), and how the reduction of pain cannot be equated to pleasure, and the pain spread to survivors can be horrendous.

I think the only piece of consolence I can offer, is that his pain on earth must have been so debilitating, that at least his suffering is finally over. To place blame on your uncle by saying "I cant believe he would do this" may be examining suicide in too much black and white terms. He probably never meant to hurt you all, he just likely needed to allieviate his pain.

Still, it's gotta suck. Sorry Kat.