Rrrrrrrrrraaaaaarrrrgh!

[karma_aster]

So, closing at work last night had elements of frustration about it. Line Guy did the flirting thing again. but I've gotten used to that and, given that he's married and has a kid, yeah, clearly joking

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[mylittleredgirl]

OMGGGG how annoying. That's obnoxious, but all too common. I don't think it's specifically because they think there's something omgwrong with your being single - I think it's because they're gossippy and this is a way for them to meddle. I wasn't there, of course, but that's what it seems like when I see people doing that same thing.

It's so much better to be single than to be dating assholes. If more people realized that, they'd be a lot happier!

[karma_aster]

I think people just have truly fucked-up ideas of what women "really want" and that's kinda the institutionalized sexism coming into play.

Plus, it's the fact that I effectively am refusing to play the game and that both annoys and confuses the hell outta people. You know the game. The one that you're stuck in just by virtue of having been born female?

But yes, I would far, FAR rather be single and happy than dating a complete jackass. It's better for my sanity in general.

[sandybutterfly]

I agree-being single is not too bad after all!
I don't have to bloody worry about what the other person is feeling!

[karma_aster]

I don't mind worrying about what the other person feels, but I do mind people actually like I WANT to be coupled because really ALL women want to be coupled.

Plus, a few shitty experiences does NOT make a girl eager to get her heart broken again.

[raidingparty]

But you can't possibly exist outside the paradigm!

[karma_aster]

The paradigm is limited and limiting. It totally needs to be shaken up.

[raidingparty]

You're a loose cannon, Cooper! Why can't you play by the rules? Your experience can't possibly exist outside what our television overlords describe.

:D

[jemster]

Amen, sista! Hell, I'm in my early 40's and have realized that I eternally SUCK at relationships. Thank goodness my family isn't one to pressure me into finding someone so that's a bonus. I, too, like being single and don't want any kids there is no need to find a mate. But, yeah..so with you on the annoying thing.

[karma_aster]

Yeah, that's one of the cool things about my parents. Both are totally cool with me being single.

Right now, I can definately say that I don't want kids, although I'm not ruling out the possiblity sometime in the future. But the thought of being solely responsible for the care of someone completely helpless scares the crap outta me. I can barely take care of myself.

But that's something that will be my OWN decision and something I decide to do because I want it and the circumstances are right for it, not because every woman "naturally wants" to be coupled and have kids.

I'm very fond of children, and that's a major factor in the plan to go into pediatric nursing, but being fond of kids doesn't mean I want to care for one full-time right now.

[karma_aster]

Oh god, I hate the "you'll feel different when it's your own!" rationalization.

Yeah, I'm not gonna chance nine months and bringing a kidlet into the world on the off-chance that I might suddenly feel an overwhelming rush of "natural maternal love" for them.

Plus, I refuse to have a kid that I can't take care of. Way too many kids are neglected either through design or circumstance and no kidlet deserves that.

Of course, apparently the fact that I actually LIKE kidlets and have a fairly motherly nature, but I don't want to have them confuses the hell outta people.

Can't we just chalk it up to "it takes all kinds of people to make up a world and not everyone's gonna fit in your neat little box" and just leave it at that?

Or is that entirely too logical?