Shame isn't healthy.

[kali921]

I've already said waaaay to much about the imbroglio over at noscans_daily and I'm sure there are people who think I've splooged and splooged hard (veritable geysers of splooge), but I'm still feeling a little shaky.

I didn't realize how much this got to me until I woke up this morning and realized that I've literally had a knot in my stomach since Friday

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[oddityangel]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so gutted by this entire thing. So many people I like and respect are struggling right now, and it makes me really angry that there seems to be very little I can do about it.

Have you seen this? I knew members of the corvidae family were clever, but that's really impressive.

[kali921]

I LOVE ALL MEMBERS OF THE CORVIDAE FAMILY AND SIMILAR. I love caws, crows, ravens, mockingbirds, etc. Did I not just post about my love for crows a few weeks ago? (I'm getting senile.)

Hey, do you know about Irene Pepperberg's groundbreaking work with Alex the African Grey parrot? She proved that PARROTS CAN DO MATH.

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so gutted by this entire thing. So many people I like and respect are struggling right now, and it makes me really angry that there seems to be very little I can do about it.Okay, hon, I'm going to be really honest with you. I appreciate your words of support, but you've been kind of...silent through this whole thing (at least, as far as I can recall), and that? Does not help. I understand that some people are reluctant to speak up because they're not sure what to do or are conflict averse or don't feel they have a place in speaking up or simply don't want to speak up due to other reasons, but when people like you are silent in the midst of things like this? It makes me question

[oddityangel]

You’re right. I can’t really defend my silence. I've been sitting on my hands (almost literally in some cases) for days because I feel that my history with the mods (both good and bad) makes it difficult for me to act or speak objectively, despite my disapproval over the way things have been handled. I want to believe in them and their sincerity when it comes to correcting the mistakes that have been made. I wince every time their characters are called into question, even though I realize that people are rightfully upset and that sort of tough criticism needs to be made in order to properly address the problem. My mixed emotions make me feel like a hypocrite who has no real right to express an opinion on such a delicate situation

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[kali921]

I know that by staying silent I'm still saying something.

I'm inclined to say that yes, you are, but then again, everyone has different levels of comfort and confidence in addressing these issues.

I want to believe in them and their sincerity when it comes to correcting the mistakes that have been made.

No one is saying that you shouldn't believe them. That's your choice.

I wince every time their characters are called into question, even though I realize that people are rightfully upset and that sort of tough criticism needs to be made in order to properly address the problem.

I don't think anyone has wholesale called their characters into question. Their beliefs, actions, words, attitudes, and level of awareness? Absolutely. Their still-present levels of inability to seemingly grasp HOW to fix some of the issues? Yes. But if you are going to bring the "but they're GOOD AND NICE PEOPLE!" into this, then I would respectfully suggest that you get a clue.

I understand if you want to cut off contact with me.I wish to do no such

[neo_prodigy]

You know, it's not just you.

I've noticed a lot of wank at an all-time high at the moment on various forums. Half of them aren't even pertaining to RaceFail, a lot of it is just drama for the sake of drama.

Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate the occassional snark fest and some drama but just wank for the sake of wank....*rolls eyes in disgust*

For the time being I'm limiting my interactions on certain forums because while I consider myself a patient person, I can only stomach so much bile before I get stressed out too.

There is no shame in stepping back for the sake of your sanity and well-being.

I got enough problems and stress in the real world. I log on to LJ to get away from that for awhile not to get caught up in unnecessary bullshit.

You do what you need to do, but just know you're not the only one who feels that way.

[kali921]

Thank you. That means a lot coming from a relative stranger.

There's a stubborn part of me that wants to steel myself, gird my feminine loins and say "no, I will NOT let this ruin my fun," but sometimes these things trigger heavy stuff. I'm also avoiding parts of my flist because I just need...to bask in escapism for the next few days.

Thank you, by the way, for posting pictures of hot men on your journal. I CANNOT EXPRESS how nice it was to scroll through your LJ over the last two days. (Yeah, I'm superficial like that.)

Also, your sister is totally adorable!!

[neo_prodigy]

Thank you I truly appreciate that.

I'm the same way in trying to be stubborn and not listen to my better sense but I've had to learn it's okay to walk away, recharge your cells and bask in escapism for a few days.

"Thank you, by the way, for posting pictures of hot men on your journal."

The Random Hawtness is a regular feature on my blog. That's one of the awesome things about being friends with me, I post the hawtness on the regular. LOL! ;D

GOOD SIR.

[kali921]

GOOD SIR, I DO BELIEVE THAT YOU NEED TO PERUSE MY " picspams of hotness" and "picspams of hawtness" TAGS. I AM KNOWN TO BE OF A SIMILAR INCLINATION. (And apparently can't decide which tag to use on any given Picspam of Hotness/Hawtness" day.)

Thank GOD we e-met. *toasts you*

I'ma have to do another Mega-Picspam of Hotness/Hawtness post soon in your honor.

[lienne]

This icon for you.

[lienne]

This icon for the people creating the fail that's left you so upset.

[lienne]

*hugs*

[kali921]

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.

Okay. I'm dragging myself out of my self-righteous pity party and getting back to LIVING.

[cynosure_jpb]

I must say, stubbleupdate's resignation actually addresses one of my major concerns about the S_D 2.0/no_scans cross-bannings apart from the current debate going on -- I kept well away from no_scans because I thought the founder's stance of not so much as as allowing links to copyrighted material posted by the copyright holders was paranoia fueled by his/her admitted ignorance of copyright law and way too close to the kind of thinking that got S_D 1.0 razed for me to hang around. The fact that s/he also mentioned wanting nothing to S_D 2.0 was, I suppose, understandable, given the actions of Marvel legal and the LJ Abuse team in the wake of S_D 1.0's nuking, but it did not make me comfortable knowing that a person who had publicly distanced him/herself from the new comm was involved in policy that was going to directly affect it.

[kali921]

but it did not make me comfortable knowing that a person who had publicly distanced him/herself from the new comm was involved in policy that was going to directly affect it.

Totally understandable, and a very good point, I think. That's something that I'd intermittently been uncomfortable about too.

[lyssie]

*snuggles*

Am v. sleepy. bah on the world.

[kali921]

Awww, Lyssie snuggles. Thank you!